Yea so my supervisor is beyond being a christian...?

Question

So it's really hard keeping a straight face at work because my supervisor is beyond a christian. She speaks in tongues she is involved in every group in her church, etc. I have no problem with her being religious or anything it's just gotten out of hand lately. She always has something to say about gay people...She refers to them as ****** and all types of non sense and the other day I heard her conversation to one of her friends saying she would never hire a gay person...So now I'm like great I can never come out at work because I will lose my job. And I am openly out so it's really hard not to say stuff about my partner and stuff.

Does anybody have any advice as to how I can deal with this? It's getting so hard for me not to tell where to shove it. lol!

*And for you anti-gay people...Leave your comments to yourself.

Thanks.

By the way there isn't anybody higher than her besides the owner of all the offices. I just feel like I'm screwed. :(

Answer 1

if your company is big enough to have an HR department, let them know what's going on. in most places, what she is doing is illegal. if you don't have HR, let her boss know what's going on.
document all your work, document all your time, so if she does try to fire you, you have proof that you're doing your job well.

good luck honey, it's a crap situation you're in.

Answer 2

You should talk to the owner of the business then. There is absolutely NO reason for you to allow this person to continue behaving in this manner; she is creating a "hostile" work environment.
If the owner does nothing and you want to remain employed at that business, I suggest that you contact the Labor Board. (I'm assuming you live in the U.S.; if not, there should be a workers' protection agency available to you through the government). Get the specifics regarding your rights as an employee and present them to the owner.
It may be a little tricky or uncomfortable, but speak with your coworkers. Chances are, they are as put off by this person as you. If several of you feel this way, go to the owner en masse.
Bottom line is YOU have rights and this woman sounds like she has no business being in a supervisory position.
Good luck.

Answer 3

If you like your job other than having to work with this small minded woman I would say talk to the owner. What she is doing is breaking the law. If it is that bad for you talk to a lawyer. She has no right talking about what she thinks is right and wrong at work that is not the place for her to step on her soap box. I would tell the owner that she is offending you by saying these things and that you feel like you are being harassed. I am sorry that you have to put up with this but you can't just let it lay there and do nothing or one day you will just loose it and tell her off. That is not a good way to handle it. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I hope you're trolling, but I'm one "tongue talker" who would never use the word f*g, and who'd have no problem hiring someone gay. My feelings about homosexuality are one thing, my feelings about homosexuals are another. Assuming this is true, discovering you are gay may change her way of thinking. I was a big time "homophobe" when I lived in suburbia. I got a job in the city (San Francisco, no less) and didn't realize that about 30% of my co-workers were gay until months after I started. By then, they had already become my friends and to my credit I didn't change my attitude towards them, rather I learned that people are people.

Answer 5

Holy crap. I am SO sorry. I'm a Christian, and I...seriously wonder about people like your boss. She doesn't sound like she has a very genuine faith - seems based MUCH more on hatred than love, and on exclusivity rather than loving acceptance.
I'm no lawyer, but I think she can lose HER job if she fires you for being gay. See if you can get witnesses to swear that she has really intense anti-homosexual sentiments, and get whatever you need to hold up your case in court, then when you feel up to it, stand up for yourself! Tell her where to shove it, as respectfully as you can lol, and if she gives you major flak, bring it up immediately with her superior. Even if it's minor stuff - don't let her get away with it! If you really don't think you have a chance of keeping the same job status, I guess you need to stay closeted...Ugh. I don't know. I hate that people have to live in these kinds of situations. Man. I'm so sorry, people can be so horrible. Best of luck, ok?

Answer 6

She speaks in tongues? Like, ummm, does she add that to languages spoken on her reusme'? Because that's a vary unstable thing to do. Also, her comments about others are extremely innappropriate, so is wearing her religion on her sleeve, she is not clergy and the workplace should be free from all that nonsense. If it gets unbearable speak to her supervisor about it or human resources. You'll be taking a chance doing it but it mught help. You could just confront her in public one day when she's flapping her jaw, just remember to remain calm and poised when doing so, so that she comes off as being an idiot.

Answer 7

I would report her - that is nonsense. Honestly, it will only get worse for you...good luck

To the ones saying being gay is a sin:
If your god created man in his image, then why is being gay a sin? When did the day come you chose to be straight? You didnt, you just were who you were. If your god has a plan for everyone yet at the same time gives them free choice as you say, how does that even make sense? Its contradicting...

Answer 8

Your boss's boss should be informed that she's preaching and proselytizing at work and creating an uncomfortable working environment. Surely others are tired of the harangues and vulgar language, too (some "Christian"!). It's called a hostile work environment and it's a no-no. It doesn't have to be a gay issue. Time to file a complaint and rein her in.

Answer 9

Ew...that's a very sucky situation.

The only thing I can offer is if she is constantly talking about gay people negatively, you could bring it up a power higher than her. That kind of talk is inappropriate for the work place.

But...yeah, I would be careful about not coming out, until you're either higher than her, or she's out of the picture.

Answer 10

When she prefers to gays as being *******, remind her that Jesus would never call people names so why does she? Tell her that hatred of others shall also be judged.But do use wisdom in your words because this is a very touchy subject but I would ask her, "Would Jesus say that?' for she is to be watched at a higher standard and it seems she is slipping..

Answer 11

It depends on what the laws are where you are, your company policies, etc. However, in most of America, you should approach your HR department or her boss. At the very least, you've got sexual orientation discrimination (depending on the policies/laws above), religious discrimination if that's how she's judging employees and applicants, and most of all, creating a hostile work environment.