question for single women over 30...?

Question

here's a survey.
1. are you ever pressured to get married, even if you've already been married do you feel you "have" to be married by yourself or family and friends?
2. is being married important to you?
3. do you spend your lonely nites happy or depressed. does this have to do with you being single, or other reasons.
4. if you were married before and now widowed or divorced, do you think you are more "desperate" to get a man (getting a man whether you love him or not, just so you wont be alone)
5.or more picky in choosing a man?(feeling after the losers you've been with or married to you now want to "get it right" so you find yourself grading men on dates)

Answer 1

1. Not really. I have been married before and one attitude that I had to learn the hard way is that I truly do not need to be married to have worth. I would rather be single and have an active life than marry the wrong person and be miserable with a new last name and a ring. I am still open to marriage but its not a priority.

2. See #1

3. I do not have lonely nights. I think that its a wrong assumption to think that because you are not married, you are lonely.. Far from it. I bet I have more company and more things to do than my married friends.

4. No, I am not desperate to get a man. Men are like potato chips in the sense that no matter how many you go through, they'll be more. I do have a boyfriend but he had to convince me and be genuine. It wasn't easy but he hung in thier and got me. :-) I was having too much fun on my own, plus after a few bad relationships with hot men, you start realizing you need to look beyond physicality/age etc to find what that man is truly made of.

5. I am very very picky, but probably not about things people think they should be picky about. Like for instance. Patience, intelligence, stability, dependability, integrity and maturity is much much much higher on my list than looks or wealth. Looks and money are things you lose or can lose. I prefer ingrained values that don't fade with time.

When I was in my 20s I never believed women in thier 30s when they said that they were so happy that they were single because there is so much to do and discover and a man could slow you down. LOL Now, I know better and one day you will too.. :-) LOL But only time can cure some ideaologies.

Question for you: Are you going to ask men the same question? I hope you don't think the only options for women is either be married or be lonely. Have a great weekend!

Answer 2

1.) No I don't feel pressured.
2.) No, getting married isn't important to me.
3.) I have lots to do, I keep busy.
4.) A person can be married, and still be alone. I found that out twice. I wouldn't marry for the sake of not being alone.
5.) It's been several years since I have dated. I have friends, to talk to. I don't grade people, that would be dangerous.

Answer 3

How old are you? i became into over thirty previously I have been given married. on the time i assumed it became into smarter to go into into marriage at a extra mature age. I nonetheless think of it incredibly is smarter. i did no longer dream approximately sooner or later getting married. I wasn't thanking my fortunate stars at age thirty-one that i could snagged husband even however I had handed my shelf existence! existence isn't a fairy tale, and marriage is barely the commencing up of the story. buddies moving on, coping with the loneliness, procuring a house? Your actual buddies will constantly be your friends, married or no longer. each and every from time to time, you're able to properly be extra lonely in a marriage than out. when you consider that while do you prefer a husband so as to purchase a house? purchase your man or woman darn abode, that way you get to maintain it once you get divorced! old maid? Fullfilled? Do you think of that at some mystical magical age you at the instant are not to any extent further a woman while you at the instant are not married? What do you alter into? an unpleasant, hollowed out doll that was human? who's feeding you this rubbish? you are the only one that is to blame for you. your abode, your private abode, your happiness, your friends. in case you finally end up with a companion who facilitates you to the two get the place you're able to the two prefer to be, it incredibly is a freaking miracle. purely assume now, that each and all of the failings which will come to you on your existence, will come to you in case you pass get them. those issues do no longer come to you as area of a equipment cope with a guy, a hoop, and an I DO. you would be plenty happier in case you remember on you. you will journey a very good purchase much less dissatisfaction, and harm in case you do no longer assume a husband, or everyone else for that remember, to grant you the failings that choose or choose on your existence. wish that facilitates, however i'm exceedingly particular that's no longer the respond which you have been searching for. sturdy success