2007-08-24 03:07:59 · 27 answers · asked by Mariah♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
May I just point on that many people have lumped all teenagers into one group. Please don't generalize. While you are correct about quite a few teenagers, don't assume that we're all like that, because we're not. Not all of us are promiscuous, insolent people who go out and have drunken sex every weekend.
Believe it or not, but there ARE teens who are in a commited, loving relationship. No, there aren't many, but they are out there. I'm one of them, and it frustrates me when people automatically assume that just because I'm 17 that I'm somehow incapable of making rational, justified decisions or, more often, they assume that I can't know what love is. I have had sex with my boyfriend, and only him, and we love each other. I have heard many times (and yes, this is from adults) that he and I have a healthier, more fullfilling relationship than many adults do. We were together for over a year before we made the decision to have sex, we discussed it a lot before, and we use two forms of birth control at all times - the condom and the pill - no exceptions. We also have a plan if these methods happen to fail. We're not irresponsible, nor are we idiots.
Please know that I'm not condoning all teenagers having sex, becuase that would be a terrible thing. I'm merely asking you to realize that some - albeit they are the minority - of teenagers ARE emotionally capable of dealing with sex, and aren't completely irresponsible. I believe that no one should have sex before they are ready, and that no one is ready at the same age. I'd also like to point out that every relationship and circumstance is different. And so, before you give me a thumbs down just because I've had sex with my boyfriend, just remember that you don't know me, or him, and therefore have no way of knowing whether we are ready for sex or not.
2007-08-24 09:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With everything else set aside like everyone thinks about, it's human nature to have to urge to have sexual experiences. Some teens have more desires than adults because it's a new thing, and they are just learning thier bodies. But, there are some BIG issues involved, such as: STD's, Teen Pregnancy, and the emotional stress. Someone said that teens just think about the act of sex. Well I will tell you, they are completly wrong and ignorant. Yeah, sure there are some teens who don't worry about those kinds of problems, and maybe because THEY didn't when they were teens, doesn't mean kids today don't. From personal experience I am a teen and I have been having sex for about three years, I am not pregnant, nor have I contracted any STD'S. It's a ISSUE with people because some people think sex is such a bad thing to do unless you married, and it might be to some people, BUT, there is no amount of talking or preventing that it going to stop anyone, i mean, ANYONE from having sex. You just have to prepare them the best you can, and let human nature take it's course.
2007-08-24 10:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Questionable89 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a teen in the US or any 1st world country must be the most difficult thing on the planet. I mean you get free schooling, the summer off, watch tv/play on computer/ video game system any time you want, hardly have to learn how to do chores. But man you have to fight the system to do what you want. Parents won't give you an allowance that is liveable, boss you around, make you do chores, tell you to come home at a certain time, tell you what you can do and who you can hang out with and not to do drugs or have sex. GEEZ you are SO responsible OBVIOUSLY you should be allowed to do exactly what you want to do.
Sorry most adults don't go running around rampantly boinking anyone that looks decent. Adults have to take responsibility for their actions. The truth though is some adults shouldn't be having sex either. Mature people take responsibility for their actions, most teens do not know how to do that. If you want to fight the system, get a job learn how to run a house, get an education, and learn as much as possible. Then start thinking about sex.
2007-08-24 10:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's an issue because teens are more irresponsible than adults and if a girl were to get pregnant she would most likely have to raise the baby on her own because statistically teen fathers are more likely to abandon the mother. The teens that are having sex aren't even old enough to get a decent job and therefore can't afford to have a baby never mind the fact that most of them live with their parents and don't even know how to cook and do laundry for themselves.
2007-08-24 11:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by sunkissedlove<3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because a teen has sexual desire doesn't mean they are ready to accept the results of sexual activity. They don't think beyond the act. They don't worry about unwanted pregnancy, STDs, HIV and Aids, being used by guys whose urge is also surging. They don't consider having to choose between abortion, adoption or having a baby they don't want and can't support. They don't consider the moral aspect of sleeping around.
My four year old grandson wants a drivers license so he can drive the family van. But no one is putting him behind the wheel because he's NOT READY YET!
2007-08-24 10:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because while teens may have desires equal to adults, they don't have the reason equal to adults and are more likely to contract an STD or become pregnant unplanned.
2007-08-24 10:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by izzymo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
read the bible.
sex isn't solely for personal gratification. it's a commitment between two individuals.
and its such a huge issue because most teens don't know the difference between meaningful sex and promiscuous sex. teens will go out and get drunk and take drugs and then have sex with multiple people in one night, or even just have lots of one night stands.
it's actually quite embarrassing how many sexual partners people have had before getting married these days. especially considering it is statistically proven that people who wait to have sex until they are married have better and more satisfying sex lives in marriage than do people who have had sex prior to getting married. just thought i'd throw that out there.
2007-08-24 10:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by mums_the_word 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its an issue because teens aren't ready for the responsibility or consequences of sex. Besides the lack of protection and the contraction of STS's there is also pregnancy. Teenagers also for the most part are not equiped to handle the emotional aspect that comes with sex either, its not meant to be something to do on a rainy afternoon to pass the time. Its something that you share with the person you love in hopes of creating a lifelong bond.
2007-08-24 10:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna K 3 · 13⤊ 0⤋
because you teens have so much ahead of you than to start having sex and end up with something that no doctor in the world can cure having a baby is not even in the question at lease you can raise it up and still get on with life,but that HIV thing now that is the big question mark that should make everyone sustain from sex young and old you know living a long and healthy life that is the issue to me
2007-08-24 10:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, hormones don't come with directions or condoms. That is the big problem with teens having the sex. If they were all being responsible, and nobody was getting knocked up or diseased, then I think less people would care at all.
so, tell all your friends at school. Protect yourselves all the time and us older folks will leave you and your fornicating ways alone!
2007-08-24 11:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Katie C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋