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My wife doesn't really care for me anymore, its a long story don't want to explain now but we both work two jobs and i don't have a single day off and she has one i work till midnight on the weekends and now i am feeling it my body is hurting and all she can say is so what go do some work. I also am know having anxiety attacks bc i cant seem to catch my breath bc of her attitude. Today i wanted to call into work today and told her i don't feel well so i was going to but she still says go do some work and so what if your not feeling well should i just leave work and **** her or stay?

2007-08-24 02:27:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

19 answers

Is she your wife or your mother? You are an adult and you and only you are responsible for your health. If you feel that bad, and your body is beginning to show symptoms of exhaustion and stress, then by all means take a sick day and see a doctor. It sounds to me like she only cares about the paychecks you bring in.... Only you can decide if your marriage is worth staying in.... while you are at the dr.'s office, ask him or her to recommend a good marriage counselor for you!

2007-08-24 02:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0 0

Leave your anger with your wife aside. If she was not part of the picture, what would you do?

You are burning the candle at both ends and could easily need a day of rest to perform better at the jobs. how much trouble would you get in if you called in to at least one for at least a day?

Once you know what you want to do, explain it to her without the blame or anger that is coming through your post. Maybe she has a valid point that is getting overlooked in the heat of the moment.

Next, I'd be thinking about some counselling. With two jobs, doesn't one of them offer a employee assistance service of some sort? If so, give it a call.

You need to get some changes in your life before you go all blooey.

2007-08-24 02:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1 0

You need to go over your expenses, and find out what you can eliminate in order to have some quality of life. No one can work two jobs with no time off for themselfs without finally crashing. If you are sick then you must take time to heal. If she doesn't care for you any more why be there? You don't explain , but life is to short to have nothing to show for it at the end of the day. You need to communicate better, then you could both work for a goal.

2007-08-24 02:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2 0

Maybe she is not sympathetic because she is also working 2 jobs. However, be a man. If you are sick, you can decide to stay home. It's your decision. Plus, usually places of employment don't want sick employees coming in because it spreads the illness to other employees.
If you and your wife do not have a good relationship anymore, maybe you should think about how to address that issue. No wonder you don't feel good, working 2 jobs and having a stressful marriage. Good luck to you. Rest up today and then you can tackle your issues tomorrow.

2007-08-24 02:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0 1

Leave work go home and go to bed. If she doesn't like it then tell her to go do some work. You really need to get some counseling for your anxiety....Your going to end up working yourself to death. Why are both of you working two jobs? You should learn to live on what you can make with one job each!

2007-08-24 02:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you should take a vacation and spend time with your wife. Or just don't work as much. Have one day a week that both of you just spend time together. you have to have communication. Talk to her and ask how she feels and what you can do to improve your relationship. Money is nice but it is not worth losing someone you love. Good luck

2007-08-24 03:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 0 1

it's too hard to tell what the underlying issue is here as to why your wife has started acting so coldly. you said you didn't want to get into it, but it is the root of your problem and likely the cause of your wife's disdain. perhaps you cheated or treated her badly in the past, i don't know and you won't tell. you need to resolve the underlying issue if you want to rescue your marriage. if you don't think you can tackle this on your own, consider a marriage counselor.

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2007-08-24 02:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

And you are a newly wed???
If you are for real with this question then all I can say is "All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy." "Money doth not maketh the man". Life is for LIVING, so get out and enjoy some of it..

2007-08-25 03:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Get her the **** out of your life!She's being totaly insensitive!She's so worried about you working.Well,you cant work if ur dead!!Sorry that sounded mean but im an honest person and it makes me angry that someone who should luv u so much should be so mean!

2007-08-24 02:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by madi 2 · 1 0

I wonder if you really screwed up in this marriage and now she's making you pay for it! Why would a grown man need permission from his wife to call in sick to work? You must have really done something low down to be in this position ........

2007-08-24 02:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1 2

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