Why do people even bother to get married?

Question

Why do people get married? I just don't understand I am 35 and I have never been married and I have 1 child but I still dont feel like I want or need to be married. I just don't see a reason for it. Plus all the married people I know are miserable. Give me your Ideas maybe im not looking at this properly.

Answer 1

My husband and I love being married. We are best friends and a team. We enjoy each others' company. Marriage shows that we have made a commitment to each other. We can't even have kids, so it wasn't about that.
I'm sorry that you have not found this in your own life.

Answer 2

Marriage is a commitment between tow people to spend their life together. It has already been proven that children from 2 parent homes have more successful lives than those who come have one parent or divorced parents. You are still not quite grown up. cheating your child of a stable home with both parents is very selfish. I have been married for 17 years. Very happily. We have had our hard times and fights. But we would not trade our time together for anything in the world. We love sharing our lives together and knowing each other is the one and only. Do you really like being witha woman who has had many lovers? When you are with your you are not just having sex with her but with everyone she has been with. Gorss isn't it?! If you had no desire to marry you should have kept from having a child. There are some who are better off single. My sister is one of those. She is way to independent and loves having her life to herself. that's fine and dandy. Why bring a child into that and mess up their life by juggleing them around all the time. Being single is fine for awhile. When you are 70 and don't have someine to sit by the fire with-you will re think your singleness at that point. Everyone has a different age when they are ready to marry. Just because you are old enogh dosesn't mean you are ready for it. Too many get married because they think they are supposed to. that is why we have a high divorce rate too. If you are happy single-fine. Nothing wrong with it. Just play it safe between the sheets.

Answer 3

I agree. I have a twisted sense of marriage (that I like to blame my parents for). I don't understand it either. It seems that now a days, since women are far more independent and self sufficient than we were 20 years ago, divorce is a doable option. I just don't understand how two people can think they will be together for the rest of their lives when they meet at age 25 or even 30.

Answer 4

My husband and I got married because we adore each other. We couldn't imagine life apart. We complete each other. We wanted to have kids together and have everyone have the same last name. (And we did 2 lovely children). We got married to make the ultimate commitment to each other. We have been married almost 12 years now and are still happy. Every time either one of us sees a little bride and groom figurine, stuffed animal or whatever, we buy it and add it to our collection because we still feel like newlyweds. :)

Answer 5

If both of you understand what it takes to make a marriage work then do it. If you don’t then don’t do it.

The adage that marriage is work is entirely true. There is no instant gratification, it’s not a fairytale it is a commitment.

You must posses basic morals and values to make it work. You can’t be selfish or jealous nor give your mate and reason to doubt… ya know… I think God said it best:

Corinthians 13:1-13
If I speak in the tongues of men and angels,
but have not love,
I have become sounding brass or a tinkling symbol.
And if I have prophecy and know all mysteries and all knowledge,
and if I have all faith so as to remove mountains,
but have not love, I am nothing.
And if I dole out all my goods, and
if I deliver my body that I may boast
but have not love, nothing I am profited.
Love is long suffering,
love is kind,
it is not jealous,
love does not boast,
it is not inflated.
It is not discourteous,
it is not selfish,
it is not irritable,
it does not enumerate the evil.
It does not rejoice over the wrong, but rejoices in the truth

It covers all things,
it has faith for all things,
it hopes in all things,
it endures in all things.
Love never falls in ruins;
but whether prophecies, they will be abolished; or
tongues, they will cease; or
knowledge, it will be superseded.
For we know in part and we prophecy in part.
But when the perfect comes, the imperfect will be superseded.
When I was an infant,
I spoke as an infant,
I reckoned as an infant;
when I became [an adult],
I abolished the things of the infant.
For now we see through a mirror in an enigma, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know as also I was fully known.
But now remains
faith, hope, love,
these three;
but the greatest of these is love.

Answer 6

you sound like my bf..he doesnt see what the big deal is with marriage where as i cant wait to get hitched, for me its not only about declaring your love ito eachother in front of those you care about but also to feel fulfilled, compleate and whole.

Answer 7

I am 36, 2 kids to 1st hubby. None to 2nd hubby, still trying to figure out why I did it 2 times. 1st time I was 17 divorced at 24, 2nd time at 28 and still wondering..................

Answer 8

I can't see the point in it either but plenty of people do, a lot citing it gives them "security". I remind all my divorced friends of that....

Answer 9

not even 1 marriage is gonna happen without someone arguing every married couple argue

Answer 10

Some like marriage
Some don't like marriage
Some try it then don't like it
To each his own
What's best for some is not right for all