2007-08-24 01:15:09 · 19 answers · asked by spider boy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honesty is the foundation of every relationship.
Friendship comes with that.
Sex is an extension of the love you feel for your partner. You feel that love because of your friendship, which has developed through getting to know each other.
You won't have a strong, long lasting relationship with anyone, let alone a 'partner' if you don't have a strong and honest base to build from.
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2007-08-24 01:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Glenn P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
To be brutally honest, humans are not monogamous creatures by nature. Our "love" hormones last about about a year and after that they're ready to discharge again with another mate. An example of this is when you first fall in "love", you're in this euphoric state where everything is wonderful, birds sing, your love can do no wrong (or if you can see their problems it seems that they will change or that the problems will go away) etc. Then reality sets in an you start to see each other in a very realistic way i.e. toilet seats left down, socks on the floor, late nights at work etc.
If you develop a friendship early in the game and keep that friendship strong throughout the romance, then you have that as an additional tool to help further your relationship.
There are other things that help: strong communication skills (friends like to talk to each other, so a double benefit), a commitment that you will love each other, and a strong commitment to sex.
2007-08-24 08:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's true of straight and gay relationships. Even the youngest horniest couple is going to spend only a few hours at most each week in a clinch. The rest of that time should be spent with someone you like, trust, and respect. And it's self-perpetuating: The more you like the person you sleep with, the more you'll enjoy the sex. People who aren't best friends with their partners are prone to jealousy and mistrust, which usually kills the relationship in time.
2007-08-24 13:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I'd have to agree that it is better being friends first....relationships where you've just met and asked them out usually just end up being more physical then anything, being friends first and that happening sponatnously is always much better because at first u are just friends, ur not even considering this person as anything more..u start talking to eachother..u start gettin closer...conversations are going great..u feel comfortable with eachother..and then all of a sudden..BOOM it happens...u start to fall for one another then comes all that exciting butterflyish experience..and then ur first kiss just becomes magical coz uv known eachother ffor a while and have been looking forward to it for a while so its even better ..and ahh...it just gets so good..but sadly at some point it must end...and u get hurt...and wait for a new adventure to begin as a more experienced person....
2007-08-24 08:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they lie. It sounds good. I think this is an example of someone who lacks boundaries. In my experience the traits to be a best friend and a partner are so vastly different that the same person could not do both and be successful.
2007-08-24 10:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a double edged sword....if you choose to have a best friend as a partner...make sure that person is truly your friend....I have a comparison scale, where all relationships are not the same experience has become the basis for everything....experience separates the Wheat from the tares.
2007-08-24 08:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by 2sexxxy32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you set a foundation down. For instance some people will just go into dating without really really knowing the other person first and so they have no foundation to build off from. Being friends first gives any relationship a very good foundation
2007-08-24 08:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by greekfacehoe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because it probably worked for them.
all relationships are different in origin and i wouldn't necessarily say that being friends first is the BEST way, but one of many ways to start a relationship.
your best relationship will be with the person that loves and respects you the most.
i would give up my life for my wife if that is what is needed.
Good luck to ya
2007-08-24 08:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by civil_seismic_eng 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pobably so that you have something to fall back on? When the going gets tough so friends stay and talk to each other. It also gives you a bit of history together and when you have that then you have the real basis for a good solid foundation that lasts longer. good luck
2007-08-24 08:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe not exactly "best friends", but it does help for familiarity purposes if such a relationship were to evolve without ever intending it to.
2007-08-24 08:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋