2007-08-24 00:58:20 · 14 answers · asked by April 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never say anything you will regret. Always remember that the person you are quarreling with is still the person that you love and share your life with. Remember they have feelings too. You can and will have disagreements. But remember to always listen to each other and be willing to compromise whenever possible. Life isn't always about having the upper hand and we don't always have to have our own way. There's no harm in giving in. Giving in doesn't make us a weak person. It shows our willingness to work things out peaceably and our willingness to make self sacrifice and compromise if it will truly benefit our relationship.
2007-08-24 03:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by clabou81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mean words that attack the person you are having the issue with. You should not resort to hatefulness but, rather, take a break when you are especially mad and calm down. When you are not so angry, then ask to sit and talk with the person over the issue. It pays to do it this way and not resort to hurtful comments which tend to stay with the other person. It is not always possible to do this but it is a better way to handle quarrels.
2007-08-24 08:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make personal statements. Don't use the word YOU. For example, "I feel like the housework should be done by both of us." Rather than, "You don't help with the housework at all!!!" Once you make it personal with the word YOU, then nobody can win because it's just a matter of each person defending their own personhood rather than dealing with the issue.
2007-08-24 08:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anything that you will have to apologize for later. Years before we were married my husband and I had a huge fight that lead to name calling. I'll admit I started it and called him a male body part. He in turn called me a female dog. That was probably 8 years ago, and I still remember it vividly. There has been no more name calling since then.
2007-08-24 08:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by adriannamarie19 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. I WANT A DIVORCE
2. YOUR BROTHER WAS BETTER IN BED THAN U
3. I NEVER LIKED MEN BEFORE I WISH I HAD REMAINED A LESBIAN
4. I HATE U AND WISH U WERE DEAD... THESE ARE THE KINDS OF WORDS NO MAN WANTS TO HEAR AND NO WOMAN SHOULD EVER SAY TO ANYONE... I HOPE THAT U ARE NOT GOING THRU A ROUGH PATCH AND MAY GOD BLESS U FOR THE HAPPINESS U HAVE...
2007-08-24 08:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Words that are personally attacking , like "You Bit*h", etc. Keep from getting into personal attacks on each other, and focus on the issue you are trying to resolve.
2007-08-24 08:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANYTHING you would want to take back later. Always stick to how YOU feel and the point of the argument. Marriage counseling 101.
2007-08-24 08:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ones you never would say if you weren't angry and never threaten divorce during an arguement....usually people don't mean these but then things get carried away because emotions are running high.
2007-08-24 08:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by chris d 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No foul language, name calling, and try not to say you. Say I feel that you....etc. If you keep saying you, it sounds as if you are blaming the other person for everything and not taking responsibility of your own mistakes.
2007-08-24 08:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know each-other.
You know the things that are especially hurtful.
Don't use them.
That you know them is a mark of your
companions trust in you.
Don't abuse that trust.
2007-08-24 09:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Irv S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋