I ended my relationship with a abusive ex partner. He attended a funeral of a mutual friend with me. I tried to keep the situation pleasant by being grown up and saying hello etc. At the buffet afterwards i went upstairs to the bedroom and he followed me up saying he needed the toilet. he then followed me into the room locked the door and took his clothes off. He was erect and asked me to do something. I said no and was very scared as he is a big man and was drunk. I cried and he got angry and started hitting himself around his face saying I was a tease for wearing a skirt?? and He was a ******** for falling for it?? Then he switched approaches to being kind and saying he loved me and tried carressing me, when I told him to get off he started hitting himself again and dressed and left me crying on the floor. other people at the funeral buffet downstairs heard some of the commotion and him leaving. I sthis a sexual crime as he did not make me do it? I am affected by this still
2007-08-24 00:36:12 · 20 answers · asked by Guido 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's still a crime, he exposed himself to you and held you in the room against your will.
2007-08-24 00:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, this guy has some issues and you need to get a restraining order. What he did was and is totally inappropriate, and he can be charged. He does not need to touch you but he did or he dd try at a minimum. A police report should have been filed. It might be too late as some time has passed. NOT that you can't, but it may come across as why didn't you file a report when it happened. I have to say it it safer for you to keep some distance between you and this dork. Good luck either way. You DON'T need a lawyer to get a restraining order. YOU go to the court house in your city or town and tell the court you want one. They may ask for a copy of the police report but you don't need a lawyer.
2007-08-24 07:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual assault is a criminal act. However, it seems he didn't touch you, so there is little that can probably be done. However, the man is definitely out of control and could be dangerous. Restraining orders are often ignored by the perpetrators. You are still in danger and if possible, should move out of the area. If this is impossible, don't let him near you again. I'm worried about you and you should at least obtain the restraining order so there will be documentation the next time he tries to contact you. Keep reporting his attempts to get in touch w/you, even if it's by telephone and keep a detailed journal of his efforts.
2007-08-24 07:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a crime, however you will probably have to go to court to prove it. Which could mean dragging your whole personal life through court and open to the public. Ask the police if you can get a restraining order. I mean you did have a relationship with this guy before and I am assuming slept with him, so it is not like something you haven't seen before. Sorry I know that is insensitive, but I think your best bet is to forget about it and move on with your life. If you see him again ignore him completely.
2007-08-24 07:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by sig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) Sexual assault IS a crime.
B) you need to see a counselor and an attorney to get help with the relationship and its effect on you as well as the incident itself, and a lawyer to file a restraining order. This person is not someone you want to be anywhere near. He's not in control of himself or his behavior and you don't want to end up in the hospital explaining to some ER doctor that your ex lost his temper and broke your (insert body part of choice here)
2007-08-24 07:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by shirasaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably some kind of misdemeanor, but hard to prove or prosecute.
Even for a drunk, this sounds like a pretty disturbed individual.
If he was abusive before, reporting the incident, or at least getting witness statements could be a foundation for an order of protection should one become necessary later.
2007-08-24 07:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy stripped in front of you it is at the very least indecent exposure. As far as sexual assault I am not sure. I found this definition on the net - Sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attention. So by him stripping it could be. I would check your local laws.
2007-08-24 07:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kidnapping, assault, attempted sexual assault.
Conclusion: Expartner was distraught over a friend's death, intoxicated and in the immediate heat of passion.
Did he have intent or planned any or the above?
If not, no crime. If yes, then you do.
Seeing the situation (your x), its a difficult case to prosecute.
2007-08-24 15:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing was done then it wasn't sexual assualt. But he did lock you in the room, that is a crimianl offence. Try talking to a counsellor, this was a voilent episode that needs to be confronted.
2007-08-24 07:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this happened. It sounds terrible. I would ask the police. Be sure to talk to someone in sex crimes as some police officers are not well informed and can be insensitive.
I'm glad you are asking for advise. I hope you have friends to talk to. God Bless.
2007-08-24 07:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋