we agreed on 300 a peice so she goes and spends 840 and now she thinks i need to give her 120.00 to cover half of what she went over!!
she was suppost to spend 600 not 840!!!
do you think i should pay the extra even though she did not call me to tell me she was going to go over?
2007-08-23 23:17:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no she should pay for it after all she's the one who created the problem in the first place
2007-08-23 23:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
spend that on what??? When i was 11 i was told i had to earn my school uniform! I had a part time job and worked to get my new shirts and nice shoes for school. Some peoples parents dont have the luxury of being able to spend all that on going back to school. the girl is incredibly lucky and she needs to be taught this. Dont give her the money make her earn it. Otherwise she will grow up thinking money is made from trees. I have been working since I was 11, have never been unemployed and at one point had 4 jobs to make sure i could survive.Sometimes even a small amount of work can make kids realise some valuable tools that will aid them in life forver
2007-08-24 06:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You agreed to pay $300, which I assume is over and above any child support that you have to pay. She went shopping. She spent your $300, the $300 she agreed to, and then she spent another $240 that was not part of the agreement!
It was her choice to spend that $240. You did not agree to it, and have no reason to pay it! What is next? You agreed to a budget! She overspent that budget so she will have to take some things back or pay for them herself!
Do not pay! If you do, she will continue to do this!!
2007-08-24 07:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by fire4511 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. Unless it is court ordered, you do nothing for your ex. Agreeing on a back to school budget is great. Sticking to your end of the bargain is great. Going over and just expecting the other half to chip in is wrong.
2007-08-24 06:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time she did it. Then you should share it with her, because it is for your own kids and the stuffs is for school. But make sure to let her know, it won't happened again the next time she goes over the limit. If she is the type of person never keep her promise of what you both already agreed on then you should have everything on writting the next time you and her are planning to do anything. You are right she should have at least call and ask or let you know when that moment happenning due to respect each other or see if you will be able to share that amount with her. In my opinion as a mother/parents. We always wanted what is best for our kid. I will do anything or buy anything for my kid as long its reasonable. And I make sure that they know I work very hard for every penny. Money are not just come out of no where. a What they 've ask for they have to earn it.
2007-08-24 06:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
no, don't give her more...stand your ground! do you pay child support as well? don't give her a penny more, not even for clothes...child support is meant to cover everything, including school clothing! =) good luck, and don't back down! she will have to take some things back...or all...and go shop at Wal Mart instead of Old Navy, lol! and that's that...
2007-08-24 07:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really don't think she planned it. When you are school shopping for your kids sometimes what you have budgeted isnt enough. I budgeted $300, but the amount of clothes my child needed & the price of the clothes made the total $400. something i didnt anticipate. I think you should pay it. Its for your child. tell your child he/she has to return the clothes. I don't think you would.
2007-08-24 09:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by kah35 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up.
It is your kids we are talking about here isn't it.
Perhaps you should have taken care of the back to school stuff so this overage would not have occured.
Not much sympathy from this quarter for a guy who whines about having to pay for his children's upkeep.
2007-08-24 07:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Only if she can prove where the 840 went.
2007-08-24 06:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
No, I would make her take some of it back to teach her a lesson about budgeting.
2007-08-24 06:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋