My 14 yr old son was 5 minutes late for his 7pm curfew do u think this is a suitable punishment:
he must be diapered 24hrs a day and be treated like a baby..including drinking from a bottle, baby looking clothes when we go out and just a diaper at home, speaking like a baby, must crawl no walking etc.
2007-08-23 21:40:06 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You are obviously kidding. You're the 14 year old aren't you. You should have got a summer job.
2007-08-24 00:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suitable punishment for nobody is what you are describing. For a 14 yr old boy it is totally asinine. You need to talk with him first find out why he was late, second ask him what he will do in similar circumstances if this happens again, third spell out the consequences of disobeying his curfew. Consequences should be age appropriate. He could do work around the house, yard work, wash the car, vacuum whatever you feel he is capable of doing. Or you could take away privileges such as TV, video games, computer except for homework, etc. whatever it is he really likes to spend time doing (but the length of time taken away should not be excessive as it will defeat the purpose and make him resentful and rebellious).
Also 5 min. late should not carry a harsh punishment unless repeated. The first time a meeting of the minds and setting of consequences should suffice.
2007-08-24 02:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally wrong!! Just at the time when your son is trying to figure out who he is, who he wants to be, what's right and what's wrong, you step in and mess him up big time! THIS IS ABUSE, not punishment.
Five minutes???? God forbid it would have been 10 minutes!
A much more suitable way of dealing with this would be to make him come home five minutes early next time. Or keep him home an extra evening. Or cut his time on the computer for a couple days. Or take away his stereo for a day. Or give him an extra chore.
Or better yet...tell him you love him and worry about him when he's late and ask him to watch his time more carefully from now on.
2007-08-24 03:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that this question is not faked just for the shock value, which I suspect it was I will answer anyway because on the off chance it is real there should be some intervention.
The type of punishments you are describing is potentially breaking the law. What you described would be considered emotional abuse in most states and may lead to your arrest as well as the loss of you child. Not to mention the damage you can be causing to your child emotionally.
Seek the assistance of local school guidance counselors in any further plans for disciplining your child.
Seek family counseling. Assuming this is real it is oblivious that you do not understand the harm your actions are causing, and some unknown person on the Internet (meaning me) will most likely not have the proper impact. However for the sake of your child see a family counselor. The school should be able to but you in contact with local programs that are free of charge.
Mention to them that you are having trouble with discipline at home but avoid specifics until you get to the counselor.
With out trying to sound abusive, you do need some education on childcare, and the possible repercussions of your actions.
If you are wondering why I believe that this situation is not real, it is because based on the example of how you have been disciplining your child for minor transgressions for the last 14 years, your child would most likely be incapable of being with out supervision or would have run away long ago.
2007-08-24 01:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Oracle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not suitable at all. It was 7:05, he isnt a runaway. The Boy just needs to be spoken to. Say next time you come home late(if you call that late), your curfew will be 6:45, then 6:30 and so on.
2007-08-24 01:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by sit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no. That's a terrible punishment. It's only gonna create more problems than it solves. You should be glad he made it within 5 minutes of curfew. He obviously respects you, it's a shame that feeling doesn't seem to be mutual.
If you want to keep your son's respect, you must respect him back. Keep up the crazy punishments and you'll end up on Dr. Phil.
2007-08-23 21:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Steve5000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely hope your joking, because if your not and if I was your Minister I would be obligated to report you for child abuse. If you really feel that you have to do this I encourage you to take all of your children down to the local Family and Children's services office and tell them your an unfit parent. Surrender your children to them and have your tubes tied because surely your not deserving of being a parent. Five minutes is not a crime, there could have been a logical mistake. Get real
2007-08-24 01:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A whole 5 minutes? Wow... As everyone else has said no, its to much. I'm really hoping this is a joke. :] But any ways, just tell him to call next time, any if he does it again, then take like an hour or two off his TV time, or something.
2007-08-23 22:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u ask him why he was late?no offense but the punishment doesn't fit it 2 extreme just ground him for a week and make him go 2 bed early.
2007-08-23 23:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by go_april_go 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i missread this .....
ok facts in hand
the kid is 14
he was 5 minutes late
and u want to make him wear and act like a baby?
that is abuse
it is called cruel and unusual punishement
will also mean he will get fostered while u take time out in a jail someplace.
hello 5 minutes late is nothing.
i really hate to think what u will do when u find out he is smoking ciggies or something.
2007-08-23 21:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Dj Downunder 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋