Do you have "friends" who are emotionally draining?

Question

I find some people only interested in talking about themselves, or venting their latest emotional crisis but when I need to chat they always turn it back to themselves.

Answer 1

That's because most people like to be heard, and think the world revolves around them. Those few who have innate human knowledge or have been privy to books like Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People," spend more time listening than talking, and therefore have more friends. Sad but true.

Answer 2

Those are fiends ... f i e n d s -- not friends. Join the Pep Club! Find a new hobby ... lose anybody that is using you for a psychological clinician. It will do them a favor. People are paid to listen to depressing tails of woe (is me).

Just for fun.. express interest in the field. Tell them that is your career ambition. Tell them how much it pays... and just stare at them until they "get it". Or tell them they need to speak with a professional .. that last one was over your head.

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Clinical psychology includes the scientific study and application of psychology for the purpose of understanding, preventing, and relieving psychologically-based distress or dysfunction and to promote subjective well-being and personal development.[1][2] Central to its practice are psychological assessment and psychotherapy, although clinical psychologists also engage in research, teaching, consultation, forensic testimony, and program development and administration.[3] In many countries it is a regulated mental health profession.

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They will feel better and you will, too!

Answer 3

Yes, I do, but I love her very much, and she does return the favor as best as she can, but hey, being emotionally drained is what I do for her, it's my job, and my burden that i bear proudly, because she needs someone, and doesn't always have someone.

That's probably sad, and depressing, but I like to pretend it's noble. :)

Answer 4

I did have "friends" like that, but you get to a point where you finally figure out that they arn't really your friends, and that they are just using you to make themselves feel better. I spent countless hours trying to help these people out, I also spent countless hours trying to get them to hang out with me, none of it worked, they never gave a damn about me, they were too focused on their own problems, and I can never forgive them for that.

Answer 5

Sound only moves out of their mouth NOT into their ears!!!

I call these people "toxic" friends.

I feel like I have run a marathon after talking to them.

Answer 6

Oh yeah, but I try to spend as little time with them as possible and not get them talking about themselves.

Answer 7

eventually, and when i tried to tell the truth, they took it the wrong way. That or when i tried to change the subject, it went back to them. I try to support them, I either get pushed away or they accept it. People are quite complicated

Answer 8

yes.....im one of those people..i have a friend he is a guy ,,,i used to have a huge crush on him and we had a fling...but he has a girlfriend now..i always call him to tell him my latest scandals and how im having my heart broken.....i know i shud stop but i cant seem to stop

Answer 9

I think im wanna of those friends!! I have alot of issues!! But i always listen to my friends and try to help out.

Answer 10

i hate this word, emotion
i have got lots in life and i decide never to get upset or listen to any crap, i can cheer friends up when they r emotionaly sad