I have heard the rumors and gossip. I have stumbled upon photos that can or can not be truth... My husband says she is crazy and taking medication and has altered pictures to look like something is going on. I have since then gathered other small pieces of information, but nothing absolutely concrete. Till this day he still maintains that he has never been with her. He is also not the confrontational type and is not one to be public about his life. I am not sure what to think? Any thoughts?
2007-08-23 21:32:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Always trust your gut instinct.
2007-08-23 21:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic_no9 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cocopuff,
If the "evidence" is still only "small pieces" and you can't find anything "concrete," I think you have to take your husband's word for it in regards an affair.
If you are "confrontational" with him, and he is not--don't you think that will put you in the role of arguing for the sake of argument?
Gossip and rumors are hard to deal with, but they are only that... and could be spoken by those who are jealous of you for other reasons. Could that be? Take ALL things into consideration before you take a gossip's words over your husband's. I think a person who does not want to argue or "be public about...life" is okay, a private person doesn't equate to a secretive person.
If you still have trouble in your marriage, try going to a counselor by yourself and explaining your feelings and why you have them. The counselor will help you untangle everything and know, ultimately, what to do.
That's the best advise I can give, and it follows going to a counselor once myself.
Try to save your marriage if you love your husband. If you merely feel possessive of him without the love, well...
the counselor will help you know.
Good luck.
2007-08-24 05:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by LK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of man is your husband? Has he given you a reason to doubt him? If all else fails, why not go and talk to that woman. After talking to her you can judge for yourself if she is serious or just crazy. You will be able to tell by the way she talks and tells you the story. If you are still unsure after talking to her, tell her to give you proof if she can. I think altering photos is a LONG way for somebody to go and fake if they were crazy.
OR you could confront your husband and tell him that you did talk to her and know he has cheated. And if he has any love or respect for you to tell you the truth, to be a man about it. That your life is not his to ruin, and it is your decision who you spend it with. That you shouldn't be kept in the dark about something that concerns you.
If he is guilty that should make him come foward.
2007-08-24 04:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The others are right - trust your instincts!
There are different kinds of affairs and non-confrontational men are the ones who will cheat rather than tell their wives that they are unhappy, because they don't want to deal with (real or imagined) repercussions.
Get on line and do some research on affairs - or visit your bookstore.
When things don't add up there is a reason, and it is always better to know the truth and where you stand, than to wonder....
2007-08-24 04:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
see may be he was with that girl but now he dont wanna repeat it so he has find u to teach him what is righr and wrong if u have any doubt just tell her to tell the truth and u would not mind and he will tell u the truth at the right time just be friendly so that he can openly talk to u everyone has a past but by remembering past if u wanna leave him its wrong just try to understand him :-)
2007-08-24 07:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband the guy you have asked about dating for 6 months?
If not then you have no reason to be wondering what he is up to.
2007-08-24 06:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband shouldn't be taking pictures with anyone except for you. If it's clearly him in the picture and he looks like he is having a good time with her, he's probably a cheater and a liar.
2007-08-24 04:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A woman's gut instinct is usually right, trust your instinct, Good luck...
2007-08-24 07:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a watchful eye.
2007-08-24 04:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by duanehofner 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ONE WORD OF ADVISE IF YOU THINK IT IS SO IT IS. IF YOU CAN FEEL IT DO NOT IGNORE THE FEELING BECAUSE BELIEVE ME IT'S THE TRUTH GOD HAS GIVEN US INSTANTS FOR A REASON AND THEY ARE THERE TO LISTEN TOO.
2007-08-24 04:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by lilgirlfatman10467 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋