I've never been raped so I wouldn't know. But i'm not saying they are just whining. I just don't understand why it is that traumatizing. How could it scar someone for life? :/
2007-08-23 21:17:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
How do I confide, Love, what was taken from me? It is a much longer story, but this is the most I wish to describe…
I was 9 months pregnant and ready to deliver my first child, my beautiful, blessed son. It was done by a doctor who felt I needed to be punished because he had to be woken when I went to the ER at Ft Hood Texas. He walked out of the exam room, indignant, stating hatefully there was nothing wrong with me, leaving me alone in stunned silence feeling… how do I help you understand, Love, just how small and shocked I felt? I couldn't talk, fighting back the unshed tears until I reached the car. I bled many days afterward.
It happened during the most vulnerable moment of my life, and left scars I'm still healing nearly 30 years later. I felt just as he wanted me to feel; utterly powerless, retched, inconsequential, wounded… and because he was a doctor and an officer, I also felt I helpless to obtain military support, since I was only an E-4. I knew they wouldn't believe me.
I pray you never have to face the degrading rage I felt that day, Love. It was definitely not about sex. It was about degrading diminishment, taking away dignity for his own empowerment, trying to crush my spirit. But he didn't win! I refuse to allow his hateful poison to continue to corrupt me or my life any longer by making me hate too. Mom often said that poison destroys the vessel in which it is kept… and hate is Poison. Therefore, I am trying to learn to forgive him… for My own sake, not for his.
I am sorry you got hateful answers to your question. It is a delicate thing you have asked, which brings out many painful emotions.
2007-08-23 22:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Eudora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel such a lot females, from an overly younger age, are informed that they're powerless, susceptible, inferior, and so on. We develop up with this attitude, and whilst and if we're raped, it simply rubs our nostril into it. Before we're raped, there could also be an detail of unbelief that's honestly actual, however the loss of manage that's worried in writing, virtually completely proves it - this is a truth assess towards our such a lot individual of organs. God has given them force, energy, peak, and testosterone, which offers them the capability to be extra competitive, as a consequence such a lot of them endeavor and or teach to the factor of figuring out the way to defend themselves. Since we should not have those items, we're rendered particularly helpless - like a sitting duck for them simply to opt for and damage. It is humiliating and worrying for that reality to be drawn residence into whole at the hundred percentage reality. We, as females, no less than at a few stage each and every unmarried day, seem over our shoulders as a way to be all set as viable in case a rape trouble would arise.
2016-09-05 12:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are very emotional. They are being terrorized. They don't know if they are going to be killed when the act is over. They worry about getting pregnant or a STD. It is not their choice. It is different when it is consensual. They are being violated and forced into this act against their will. They will never forget the experience in their future sex life because of all the trauma and emotional scarring. It can make them fearful and unable to give and receive love.
2007-08-23 21:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not about the actual act, it's about someone doing something extremely personal and invasive without your permission. Think of it this way: you'd have surgery if your tonsils needed to come out, right? But what if someone grabbed you off the street and held you down and performed surgery on you, or if someone performed surgery on you while you were sleeping? You'd feel horrified and invaded. And then some insensitive person might say, "Hey, what's the big deal? You've had surgery before!" But I can't see how anyone could wonder why it would be a big deal. Try some empathy.
2007-08-23 21:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Guess it's just the thought of someone using you against your will...having no one to help you. Being vulnerable to someone you'd rather not be vulnerable around. Non-virgins that get raped don't really see it like "omg sex"...they most likely see it as "hey...sex is something I only do with someone I love". Yeah...I don't think I'm putting this into correct words...basically...it's the no-consent thing. I mean...I get mad when people pick food off my plate...imagine how I'd be if someone tried to f*ck me without asking!
2007-08-23 21:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bri 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you ever went thru it, you'd understand. There's also a fear of not knowing what else that person might do to you. And rape is NOT a form of love making. I think you're just asking cuz you don't understand what the difference is.
2007-08-23 21:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by kiddo 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you'd like to not consent to being violated and still have it happen to you. If someone broke into your home and raped your Mom in front of you I wonder if your opinion would change. Most women are beaten and threatened and the memories don't go away.
2007-08-23 21:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by eizus28 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rape is about control. A rapist totally takes control away from the victim.
Also, in most cases, it is a very painful and violent act.
2007-08-23 21:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU APPEAR TO BE VERY DANGEROUS!!!
Rape is a VIOLENT CRIME!!!
How about when an adult rapes a child over and over and over???
It does NOT have anything to with the victim!!!
It violates a person's sacred body.
The person is forced to do something they don't want to do!!!
2007-08-23 21:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Devon 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Rape is not like making love with someone.
It is a violent, degrading act that has not been consented to.
Many rape victims are murdered too, do you understand now why it is such a terrifying ordeal?
2007-08-23 21:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋