My ex hubby MIA now wants to see me and my son?
My hubby and I were 2gether for 5 yrs..and was hooked on crack after his mom passed away...
I got pregnant, he was MIA, saw our son when he was 1 month, dissapeared, never supported me in any way, and got shipped off to another country by his parents..
Now 6 yrs has passed, he decides to call me and says "hey"..
I was shocked and p*ssed off, surprised and then I hung up...
What should I do now? Please advice..
My son has never seen his dad, but has a great family established already consisting of my mom, dad, 3 bros...
2007-08-23 19:58:38 · 4 answers · asked by contessa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't already have legal custody, go to court and get it. You should tell your son the truth about his real dad and his step dad. If you haven't already. If you don't and he finds out later he will resent you for not telling him. He may need some family counseling, because he will be very confused by the whole thing.
Don't give your x any visitation privileges, make him have to go to court to get that.
2007-08-23 20:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard decision girl, it really depends on what you want, if it were my ex, i'd tell him to leave us alone, i wouldn't want him messing and screwing up our lives again, but then again, he may have changed and now wants to be a part of his life, i'd say, the next time he calls, talk to him and see if he's changed any....ask him why he did what he did, ask him what he's doing now...if he is still no good, then i'd say tell him to leave you alone, if he has changed for the better you may want him being a part of your childs life just so your son doesnt' get older and become angry that you didn't let his father see him.....way the pros and cons'....ask your family wha they think...just don't rush into something you may regret, your in control of this so take your time and think long and hard about what the outcome may be with whatever you choose......hope it all works out.......God bless
2007-08-24 09:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the idiot calls again tell him dont bother, you have created a great life for you and your child, and your child doesnt need a parent like him, but as the child grows up I would tell him about his dad, the child has the right to know...
2007-08-24 06:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
belive in yourself. Where was that person for 4 years. Relationship is like vine glass, once it broken very difficult to join.
If u join also it look ugly.
Enjoy life
yours
2007-08-24 04:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋