How do you make friends?

Question

Tell me please, because I've unsuccessfully tried many times.
I talk to a person one time and then they stop talking to me? I don't understand. Maybe it's because I make them feel uncomfortable, but I can't help that. I think I smile too much or something, but that's only because I'm TRYING to be friendly. It's like people try to avoid me because they think that I don't like them... or something. But really, I want to make friends because at this moment, I don't have many. So tell me, how do you make friends? What seems so easy for others seem so hard for me.

Answer 1

I suggest that you stop trying so hard and relax. Think about how you can really get to know the person and don't put too much energy into making it work. Sometimes playing it cool and playing a little hard to get can be good psychology.

It's hard to say what the issue is, but it could simply be a matter of skills. I think anyone could improve the quality of their relationships by learning good communication skills. An old but good book is: "People Skills" by Bolton.

This is a solid, well-documented approach to improving any kind of communication. You might also learn to meditation and give up some preconceptions about how you want the relationship to be. The relationship will come to be what it will come to be.

By the way, you should focus on forming just a few deep friendships. Don't value quantity over quality, even though that's how the media tries to sell you the next Big Mac.

Answer 2

The first step is to be yourself: Do not b too serious all the time - people will take you for a mean fellow; do not smile too much - People will take you for a weak fellow. Be moderate in everything you do.

Next, be nice to people, volunteer to help them when you sense they need it.

Next up, be nice and kind in your speach, be confident when you talk, do not shout too much or talk inaudibly.

Let people see you as a likeable person, thats the summary of the whole thing.

In life, you have to play your part and leave the rest. If you have done all you should and people still don't want you as their friend, then let it be. Perhaps you were not meant to have too many. Just make do with the one you have and make the most of them.

Answer 3

Let me guess, high school right?Okay meet one good friend and then like instead of waiting on them to keep talking to you, you continue to strike up convos with them. After you have gotten the feeling they're cool with you, start talking to their friends as well, or ya'll can both start talkin to people together, it's much easier to meet people wen you have sumone doing it with you. Also if you share classes with someone you're bound to meet people in your class. AT lunch dont sit with the people you know, switch it up a bit and sit at a table of people you dnt know. I mean they may look at you crazy, but if they do screw them and move on. I am a really silly person so I find that it easiest for me to meet people if I go sit a table with a person thats alone and start talking about sumthing and add a little humor to the conversation. Humor always takes the intensity of a convo away. Don't get too worried, you'll meet people. I am about to be a frosh in high school and the first week of frosh camp I was soo lost, but eventually I met people through other people, gathering the courage to talk to them , or just asking one of the upperclassmen questions and they would just talk to me.

Answer 4

The best way to make friends its to know who you are and be confident about your own destiny. In that way, it will be easy to get folks around you that will like or love you for who you are. You'll be able to sow friendship through selfless giving of time, values or tangibles and get those in return because they believe in your destiny. The last thing you want is just getting friends for the sake of it, I mean you want people that are going to add value to your life. Every single friend of mine adds value to me. I got them through giving time, attention and values, and I got that in return. But they were birds who I shared the same feather with from the onset. Those are true friends.

Answer 5

Find a group for something that interests you. When you're talking ABOUT something, you (and they) won't be focused on each other. Once you feel comfortable, you can get to know them and if it ever gets awkward, you have that common interest to fall back on for conversation material.

Answer 6

I say hello. and every time I see them I say hello again. Then sooner or later something else comes out of my mouth or maybe theirs. I longer it takes to build a friendship the longer the friendship will last.

Answer 7

try to be your self not picture or copy for another one and this will attract the people to you.

Answer 8

find something that you both like and start talking bout it

Answer 9

i'll be your friend :) i smile alot too so we can be weird together lol.

Answer 10

take the ones that will take you and forget the rest ... ♥