I broke up with my fiancée and it is very painful I couldn't sleep and I couldn't eat I couldn't think my life just stop. What is the way to recover myself
2007-08-23 19:29:26 · 11 answers · asked by supshumrani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You broke up with her for a reason. Remember why you felt you couldn't live with her. Then focus on your future and forget about the past with her. It won't be easy, but every day gets better. A few weeks of mourning are better than a lifetime of misery.
2007-08-23 19:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt, there is no magical way to make you feel better, there will be times that it hurts more than others, and there will be times that you find yourself not thinking about, and then you do and hurts all that much more. You had good reasons for breaking it off, you can't second guess yourself now. There will come a time when it doesn't hurt as bad, when you will be able to eat, and sleep and laugh again. Don't ever be afraid to hurt over it, don't keep yourself from crying, go ahead and indulge in that pint of ice cream, hang with your friends, the ones that will let you cry. Don't listen to the mean things, but remember the good times. But most of all, be true to yourself and your own feelings and opinions.
2007-08-23 19:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Siobhan D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to bed dont think about your ex find a happy place , a waterfall with green pastures your favourite flowers (oi I said no thinkin of the ex) the birds singing , the smell's of fresh air and flowers blended , or think of yourself in your dream home on your dream property riding horses , doing happy things , it works .
Eat tiny meals nothing huge and re-focus your mind.
2007-08-23 19:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with her? Were you guys fighting too much? MOST people don't have the tools or direction to have a lasting, loving relationship. Maybe this can help...
I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...
It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unloving towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.
If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...
"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).
As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."
I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.
If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!
2007-08-27 02:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously contemplate over the very reason you broke with her. It will give you strength to recover from it.
2007-08-23 19:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you said you broke up with her. If you still love her so much...mend the relationship. if there were reasons for the break-up, then remind yourself of why you broke it off.
2007-08-23 19:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dancing. It's a great way to meet hos and influence skanks.
2007-08-23 19:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by What? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marry Her!!!!! Stop getting cold feet and go get your Bride!!!!
2007-08-23 19:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with her, get her back and marry her.
2007-08-23 19:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with sum of ur friends try to have fun as much as u can!!!it'll be ok!!!
2007-08-23 19:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by khristina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋