How do you react when you are hurt by people you thought were your friends?

Answer 1

We hurt the ones we love. So, that being said, when I get through kicking their fat fannies through a wall, I tell them I still love them.

Answer 2

This just happen to me, I got in a fight with my two best friends and then they teamed up on me and started saying all this B.S. that wasn't true and in fact hurtful just to strengthen their argument and I'll admit I am not completely innocent but I would never fight dirty and slander my friends the way they did just to "try" to win an argument. Now neither one of them is talking to me and I am not entirely sure care, I'm definitely not about to crawl back to them after they did me dirty like they did! The fight was so stupid but it made me realize if they could betray me over something so insignificant were they ever really my friends anyway? At the risk of sounding a bit cliche (but I simply must) "With friends like these who needs enemies?" Or better yet "Frienemies"

Answer 3

Totally shocked and really sad. I had it happen to me before I couldn't believe it. I gave up so much for her and then I get the boot. She prefers some other girl that uses her, calls her out of her name, ridicules her over me supposedly her best friend since 8th grade? I couldn't believe it...I'm still shocked. When I see her in class I don't even want to look at her...Hurts too much. But it did teach me a lesson...For that I am thankful.

Answer 4

I go into a state of shock, then realize those people weren't my friends in the first place, and I often get really po'd, angry, break down and cry, get over it, and move on, forgiving them, but NEVER forgetting what they have done, and then move on through life without them! Hey ... it works! For me anyway!

Answer 5

I went from shock
to mad
to hurt
to sad
to depressed
to trying to get out of that pit and forgive so I can move on to better things.

Answer 6

just happened about a month ago. I cried, confronted the person, forgave him but we still aren't back up to the level of trust we had.
Usually I end the friendship but this one I just couldn't.

Answer 7

tell them straight what they have done and why they hurt and then take action depending on their reaction i always tell people what i thimk bout them to their faces as i believe that if you cannot say it to a person face you should not be saying it at all

Answer 8

They say that payback is hell. However, payback is also heaven, if you are the one paying someone back who did you wrong. I do not say anything. I just plot my revenge.

Answer 9

Punch a wall it'll make you feel better lol

Answer 10

"wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses" (Prov. 27:6)

not everyone who claims to be your friend actually is..... and not everyone whom you think is an enemy.... actaully is either. Life has a way of bringing those harsh truths to light.

As for the hurt, It depends what you mean by "hurt." Was i told something truthful that i needed to hear, but didnt want to? Was my friend simply having a bad day and snapped at me unintentionally? Was it anything beyond the normal squabble between friends when they've spent too much time together? Those things are easily understandable and forgivable though they sting a little at the time. Friends will get into a spat now and again, but if that person is really your friend, you'll be able to work it out and continue on being friends without any hard feelings, from either side. (you or they).

Or are you talking more along the lines of, when someone pretends to be your friend, but then you later find out they are nothing of the kind. They're actually the lying, back-stabbing kind? Especailly when it comes from someone whom you considered 'on the line' as far as their friendship anyways, but still never expected them to stab you in the back like they did.....
Yes that can be very painful.... especially if you were somewhat close with that person. But i've learned that you cannot dwell on those things and let that really eat away at you (though sometimes i'm not so keen on my own advice lol doing quite the opposite!)
Yes, when a friend lets you down it hurts. When a friend whos life is peachy and great takes all your pain and acts like they've experienced it so they get attention, when you're the one who's truly suffering, it hurts. When a friend lies to your face about something you know they did, it hurts. When they go from being your friend one minute to being very much your enemy the next, it hurts. Or when they pretend to be your friend to your face all the while doing awful things behind your back that you know their doing, just never tell them, it hurts. Trust me on this. There are some days i wonder if i have any real friends at all despite what comes out of their mouths towards me.
But you cannot dwell on that. You have to learn to let it go, realising that it's a darn good thing you found that out about them now before trusting them more as that wouldve been totally disasterous! And it IS a good thing as that way you can put distance between yourself and them, therefore avoiding further consequence of being the punching bag and scapegoat for an obviously very awful person. You are better off without them. And though it hurts, and it's going to.... you need to realise that it is actually for your benefit that you found out what kind of truly despicable human being they actually were, before they may have done some real damage to you. Sometimes people do rotten things to other people becasue they are mad, jealous, selfish or what ever, and unfortunately some of those things can never be corrected. Sometimes what's done is done. Why continue to be friends with those type of people and bring to yourself or them scars that won't ever go away? It's not worth it. Trust me.

We all need friendship to keep us going, and sometimes we foolishly choose the wrong people, or even keep people as friends that are by no means friends at all, continuing to cover over their rotten actions towards us because in some ways we like being their friend, and they like being ours. Or maybe just because we don't know how we'd handle having no friends at all.
Honey I've had times where ive had tons of friends, and times where i've had no friends. And i can honestly say, that..... it's better to have no friend, then to be friends with someone who's only disguised as such. If they stabbed you in the back once, they'll most likely do it again. As the old saying goes, "burn me once, shame on you. burn me twice, shame on me." So it's better for you to be wise and completely distance yourself from that person (if they truly are a rotten individual) and not worry any more on it..... and even though it hurts, think of it as, youre better off and don't need the bulljive.... and they'll never change, so why continue to let them make a fool and a miserable wreck out of you? I think of it as, i'm embarassed for them.... to have to go through life being that much of a low-life and scumbag. And just because they are immature and idiotic, doesnt mean i have to be, or that i have to respond to it.
Yes it hurts, it hurts very badly sometimes....... but i'm certain it always works out in the end. And you're better of without those that are purposely causing you pain. In the case of misunderstandings....or an intentional wounding or not, forgive them, forget about it, and move on.
That's how i look at it anyways. You dont need a hundred friends, all you really need is one, honest, good one.

Good Luck to you.....
----> HUGS!<----- and here's a star to make it all better!! :)

PS: And if you're still feeling crappy... i could write you a list of reference points of some of the horrible things that rotten low-lifes did to me, on purpose, and i bet it would be a lot worse than whatever your so-called friends did to you LOL..... you could read it and think, "Well, at least i never had to know some real crazies like she did. Those people were despicable!" ROFL And then you'd feel tons better! believe me!