My husband took a nude picture of me face down and passed out (not from being in a drunken state, just sleeping). I was wearing a garter and stockings and nothing else. He has it on his cell phone. We had a discussion a week ago regarding the subject and he said that he would never do that without my knowledge. And I expressed very boldly that I oppose that very much. Yesterday a.m. his phone was ringing for work, I picked it up and there was the picture. Am I wrong for feeling violated?
2007-08-23 18:33:17 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I caught him making plans with women at online dating sites. He is no longer online because his computer got thrown out the window. So, no it couldn't have been pics of someone else and I am not grateful it was me. I feel like I am last resort.
2007-08-23 18:46:53 · update #1
I caught him making plans with women at online dating sites. He is no longer online because his computer got thrown out the window. So, no it couldn't have been pics of someone else and I am not grateful it was me. I feel like I am last resort.
2007-08-23 19:19:50 · update #2
Voyer? I also recently found out after 6 years he cross dresses.
2007-08-23 19:55:42 · update #3
On the upside, its flattering that he is so obviously impressed with your body, but he doesnt have the right to take photos of you of that nature without your permission. Delete the pic off his phone when you get the chance, that way you know its gone, and tell him that next time, he needs to ask nicely first.
2007-08-23 18:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Vicarious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, you have put yourself up for alot of harsh responses here if this is a legitimate scenario, that being said, I am going to give you a legitimate response without the brow-beating. Your affair is wrong, I don't think you need me to tell you that, if you are unhappy in your marriage you should have ended that relationship before starting another. You may have subconsciously wanted your husband to find out about your affair or you wouldn't have "accidentally" sent those photos to your husband rather than the bf. You definitely have a lot of explaining to do to your husband, so the best thing to do is set him down and talk to him, be honest, and decide if you want to stay in the marriage, maybe he will give you another chance. You have to figure out why you cheated in the first place if you are happy with your husband, something is missing for you. Understand that he is going to have serious trust issues with you for a long time. On another note, it really isn't safe to send nude photos of your self to anyone no matter how much you would like to believe you can trust the person you sent them to. They could and sometimes do wind up lots of other places you wouldn't want them to be seen. Please be careful with that, and good luck.
2016-05-21 04:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong for feeling violated. I think he should delete it from his phone or you do it. That way when it rings again, and he goes to answer it, he'll see that you meant what you said, "you were violated and it is NOT okay!" So next time, he'll ask. OR take one of him in the same state and put it on your phone, show him and then ask if the shoe is on the other foot, how does it feel? He may like that sort of thing and you're just finding out about it. Either way, he should honor your wishes and delete it from his phone.
2007-08-31 17:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by for7949 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mind. As long as he is not using that nude pictures for any other purpose, but just for himself to enjoy and look at. I would be glad if he is still find me attractive after all years of together. Rather than find out he watch porn or have some other women nude pictures on it. Who knows how far will he goes with those unknown pics and I might start wonder how he got them? who are they and who are they relate to him? And about other issue that you've mention. He is chatting with other women. That is unacceptable. There is always a start... Find out why he has this kind of behave and should have a real talk about it. Can't continue unless you let him be.
2007-08-23 19:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lilian 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Porno addtiction is a big thing and is breaking up a lot of marriages.
Everyone knocked the commimist years ago but do you know what the guards were forced to search? Pronography was what the Russia Government hated more than drugs ever because of it's harmful affects on society.
Advertizers in the USA use sex to even sell toothpaste lol.
He has a problem and your caught in the middle of it.
2007-08-31 04:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by dadw5boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>He is no longer online because his computer got thrown out the window<
Oh, man, you just made my day. I like your style. But you mean he's no longer online *at home*.
It's hard for me to express just how wrong it is to violate someone's privacy like that. We already know he's a liar - given the nature of the photo, it sounds like he has a sadistic streak too.
Maybe you should throw the cell phone into the toilet.
2007-08-31 06:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok! He should have asked you first. And if you don't like that sort of thing then he should have respected that. Sounds like this guy is just using you as a side dish. He wants his cake and eat it too. No you are not wrong for feeling violated. By god i woulda felt the same way too. I think its time you moved on and let him have his cake but the best thing is, he won't be eating it too cause he won't have you. This guy needs to get a grip on life. He has no respect for you and obviously don't love you!
2007-08-30 17:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by tigerbrat21531 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two should go to a marriage counselor after finding out this new information about him making plans with other women. And no, even though he is your husband I don't believe he has the right to take pictures of you and keep them after you have expressed that you are uncomfortable with it.
2007-08-23 18:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a voyer and he doesn't care who he is looking at without there knowledge or consent whether it be you or a stranger. He needs therapy. I bet he has binoculars in the house or in his car. You are married to an undercover Voyer. Wake up!!!
2007-08-23 19:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. No matter if you are married or not everyone always remains with the right to privacy. That also includes the right to know when someone is taking pictures of you, whether you be clothed or not. He definately needs the permission.
2007-08-31 18:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Heather S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋