ok well today is the fourth day back to school and on the first day in my art class i sat next to my friend (a girl) well when im around her im myself you know and by that i mean funny talkitive outgoing and well cute (acording to her) anyways out of no where i decided to look at some paintings hanging across the room and again out of no where i just stared down to the person seating right next to the painting and that person happens to be a guy....when i did this i catched him staring at me anyways i didnt pay attention cause well i just didnt anyways like 5 min later for some reason i thought about him and was thinking if maybe he was gay but then i thought nahhh hes not im just being guessy so i decided to glance at him again (most of it cause hes hot) well when i did i catched him staring at me again so i just looked away(cause im gay but closeted bi the way) anyways back to it since day one weve had small projects like drawings and ive catched him starring every time i glance
2007-08-23 18:23:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
one more thing he looks so straight
2007-08-23 18:26:23 · update #1
oh and what should i do if this keeps up you know him glancing at me (dont get me wrong i find it flattering and by what should i do is if i should ask if hes gay
2007-08-23 18:27:50 · update #2
Nice run-on sentence.
If you want to find out whether or not he's gay, get to know him. You'll find out real quick whether he's gay or not.
2007-08-23 18:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion this isn't about "gay" but someone who you think is attracted to you and it appears that you don't mind that. Yes is might be construed as a gay thing, it is really about a person who might find you attractive and you may feel the same way about them.
He could be staring at your work, but that is not likely because of what you have stated. My advice is for you to decide if you want to pursue this apparent attraction if you agree with it. It appears that he is interested in you and that you are interested in his attraction to you. If you are also attracted to him, then perhaps you might invite him to dinner or even to have coffee or drinks at your place or his.
This way, you both will ultimately talk about what is going on and perhaps you both will find some similarities and hit it off great. If you do have a meeting of any kind and you or him decide it is not right, then you will at least know this.
From what you have said, you are both interested in each other. I would urge you to go for it and find out where it leads.
2007-08-24 01:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where your female friend could help you out. For the most part, "GAYDAR" is a myth, and it's really hard to tell (especially if he is still in denial about his sexual orientation or, like you, closeted). Perhaps she could kind of cozy up to him and flirt with him for you so you could gauge his reaction to her. Maybe she could draw him in to projects with the two of you, so you could get to know him a little. This is a big favor to ask of her, I know. Maybe she'd let you approach him as if it were on HER behalf..."my friend wondered if you have a girlfriend", that kind of thing. If he's staring at you on a regular basis, I would take this as a sign of interest, but you need to be careful. Try to do a little "super-spy" research on him, who his friends are, where he hangs out, who he may have dated and for how long (lots of gay guys have exploratory relationships with girls, but they are usually brief and end badly). Good luck. It's really tough to be gay when you're young and haven't come out yet. It's not easy to spot potential relationship material when so few of them are open about their gayness. Keep your eye on him, though. He might be exactly what you're looking for.
2007-08-24 01:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
next time your eyes meet across the classroom wink at him and invite him to sit next to you. start chatting around anything and everything, if he gives you the right vibes and you have strong suspicions that he is gay or bi.
try moving closer, shoulder to shoulder, looking deep ito each others eyes, after a few lessons put your hand on hs leg and move up if he stops you - straight, if you continue and his leg starts to shake and he starts to get hard, you have a new best friend (well to your mom and dad his your best friend, wink wink).
And if you and this guy get surious you can fall out of the closet making out, stubble to stubble
2007-08-24 21:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by wes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Errrrm...my advise is to not assume anything because even though it seems like it, its very possible he is looking at your friend! And if he is, but you told someone you thought he liked you, word could get around and you might be in some trouble! Plus people may figure out you're gay. I hope you figure out whats up! Good luck.
2007-08-24 01:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try winking at when you glance. He might respond to that and take a hint, or just stop staring. Either responce, it's needed.
2007-08-24 01:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by brokendreamboi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you, then that is a good thing. It means you are nice attractive person. Just be cool, be polite, be kind, and firm. Treat him like anyone else, and just make sure to set your healthy boundary just like with anyone else.
2007-08-24 01:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might want to try tickling his asss with a paint brush when he's bending over to paint. if giggles, smiles, or anything to that nature i'd say its money but if he doesn't then you'd better be right for an asss whippin
2007-08-24 01:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sole 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he4 looks at you cause you kept look at him like hes confused but there is a chance he might like you
2007-08-24 01:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably asking why is he looking at me?
2007-08-24 13:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Your MOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋