What do I do?

Question

I like to be by myself, and I usually watch tv upstairs in my parents room because I don't like what my parents watch. Well Its really hot up there and when I go downstairs I have really red cheeks... so my mom automaticly thinks I've been "rubbing myself (you know what I'm talking about)" but I haven't and I start to smile and kind of giggle because its funny the look she gives me, and she doesn't stop smiling/staring for a few minutes and watches me wherever she walks. I really am not doing anything but when she does that it makes me nervous so thats why I I kind of smile and laugh because thatsj ust how I am. What do I tell my mom to get her to leave me alone and convince her I'm not doing anything? In my house doing "you know what" to yourself is a bad thing, also I find it pretty gross. Also I get nervous when my mom askes me where I find out some terms like g-spot, pop cherry, etc when I either learn for my friend, girl magazines, or sex ed in 5th grade. So what do I do?!?!

Your not really any help you know or are you just in it for the 2 points?

My mom knows how hot it is up there but my dad gets angry when we turn the AC on, and he'll turn it off and it goes on like that when hes home, and the fan makes it like a FREEZER up there while AC makes it perfect.

I keep the door open but my parentsn ever really og in their room except to change, sleep, or take showers. Can't open windows because of alot of dust (southern cali for ya) I just turned 14 a few weeks ago.

I'm not a guy.

Answer 1

Listen, I'm 14 and I had "the talk" with my mom when I was like 8 years old, but she still does stuff like this to me to. I think it's mainly because she wants me to be educated on sex. I mean she knows that I'm responsible and all, but with all the things negative happening nowadays that are sex-related, she just wants to make sure. My mom also jokes with me about sensual things too though, just because we have a relationship like that, where we're open with each other. I went to the movies with my bf, and she was like "you let him touch your boobs didnt you?" i mean I'm sure she really wants to know, but for the most part she's just playing with me. As far as the whole termanology thing, just dont bring up the words with your mom if you dnt want her to ask. If you do get asked though, just tell her "Mom, I'm __ years old, I do hear stuff at school you know!" I used to tell my mom this and she was just like "True." Now though since I've gotten older she just knows that I'm educated on sex because I am 14 and I DO have a life. So just know, your mom aint tryna embarress you, she just wants to know if you're educated and she just likes playing around with you it seems. Relax, in time you won't be so nervouse about the subject.

Answer 2

OK, here's what you do.
When you get some time, talk to your mom in private and ask her why does she think you do "activities" like the ones you describe.
OR
you might want to invite your mom to a coffee conversation about your school or whatever, in the 'room' so that she sees you get your cheeks red even when, in her mind, you're not doing anything wrong.
then, after the chat is over, tell her something that say's "it's kind of hot in here, let me turn on the fun, the air conditioner or something' that way she'll know that's the reason things happen to your cheeks.
You see, common sense. Just grab her attention to the real proof and see how things clear up.

Answer 3

It is a good idea to start talking about these things openly with your mom. Ask her to find a time when you could have a private talk. When that time comes, tell her what you feel, that you think she is suspicious of this and other things and that you want to clear this up with her. Tell her how you feel when she watches you and smiles that way. Chances are she probably isn't even thinking of what you suspect. It is just a really good thing to build an understanding between you and Mom when you are young. She can be a very valuable friend and guide. You may have to be the one to begin these talks because, believe it or not, she may be a little embarassed to talk on the subject herself. Trust her, confide in her, and she will trust you more in return.

Answer 4

Man, first of all, you are completely normal. There is nothing wrong at all with "rubbing yourself" which everyone else calls "masturbation". Now the fact that your mother is drawing this much attention to it is kind of strange. I would try being direct with her.

Stop trying to convince her you aren't doing anything, and go the other route. Tell her you were masturbating and want some privacy. That will probably throw her off guard enough she won't want to ask further.

When she asks you how you found out about different terms, try this.... sit down at the kitchen table with her. Tell her that you know she has some questions and that you would like her to ask them now. Give her honest answers. She is somewhat understandably curious about where you are getting your information from.... After all, she probably doesn't want you getting some gal pregnant.

Don't get the giggles. Where did you find out about G-Spot? Tell her. Adults know these things. You've learned about them. Time to be an adult. If you have something wrong, let her straighten you out. In this day and age, doing something without all the information is just asking to get a sexually transmitted disease. Sex is sex man and we all do it.

My advice is to humor her, but do it on your terms. Next time she asks, give her ALLLLLL the answers and make a big discussion out of it.

I think she is really trying to give you the "talk" about sex, but it embarrasses her as much as you. Dude, don't be embarrassed. Just talk to her as one adult to another. It's about that time since you are becoming an adult.

Answer 5

first of all, its your body and even if you were doing "u know what", your mum shouldn't be acting the way she does, but thats mums for ya and its near impossible to change their way of thinking. you seem young to know about that stuff but I think younger people need to be aware of their sexuality at a young age coz even girls/boys as young as 10 have sex. its better for you to be aware and prepared. and its not gross, its a natural way to explore your body, most people masturbate but of course they will deny it.

as for the bedroom thing, i suggest you open the windows, door and maybe get a fan, so you dont feel embarrased with your "rosy cheeks" coz of the hot room. plus leaving the door open will let your mum know that you aren't "up to anything". or you could ask if you could put the tv in your room.

Answer 6

One minor suggestion would be if it is too embarrassing to say outloud or to her face, you can always right it down and leave it for her or such. something needs to be said so this charade doesn't go on and you can get rid of this issue, Sometimes hard to talk about subjects you can write down to someone but keep it very simple so she doesnt start a big conversation about it like : Did you know when I come downstairs with red cheeks it is because it is so hot up there, can we get a fan or something like that.Good luck but get it taken care of.

Answer 7

Look on th bright side. Some parents would assume you've been smoking pot and make you pee in a bottle 2 times a week for the next year. So you're getting off light! :-)

Answer 8

Leave your door open and learn to disregard it. Invite your parents up to watch. Stick around downstairs and tough the bad TV out.

PS: "It" isn't bad. It's normal and many, both guys and girls, do it. We are sexual creatures and don't always have a partner around!

Answer 9

To begin with, tell her the truth. Explain about the heat, etc. Be honest at all times and you will earn respect. Be honest in all things and people won't question your honesty.

Answer 10

Umm if your mom think you are doing that why does she let you in her room, so gross!