Well, my dad died about a year a go now, this September. My mom remarried and that so it wasn't a big deal to her. And my friends dad died a lil while before that and she got a lot of money from the state, (social security) when she didn't even know her dad. So i asked my mom about this and she says we are not "eligible" to receive the money so i let it go. But now i find how that she gets the money and she has been using it for her own personal spending money and lying to me about it. Is there anything i can do to keep her filthy hands off it. Its my money && my dad. Its also the only reason why she wont let me stay with my step dad , until I'm at least 16 so she cankeep my money, cause she is moving, and divorcing, and taking me with her.
2007-08-23 17:59:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
my mom isnt using this money for me such as food cloths roof over my head etc. She is using it for SHOPPING money and stuff for her. Basically my mom is a gold digger. And if my parents divorce, my mom will go after my step dad's farm he has had since he was 14 and sell it. SOO i need to live with my dad because i am not living with my moms new victim. so im trying to ruin her idea of stealing my money.
2007-08-23 18:13:43 · update #1
yea and about that last comment...ive cried..for 9 hours straight and she took me to the hospital and had the cops come in and have counselors come in and tell me to grow up and stop crying. And they wanted to put me a mental hospital for a couple days. My mom is not a loving mom. She said she rather put me on adoption but she had other reason why she wont. and this is it. no lie.
2007-08-23 18:18:53 · update #2
I live in Michigan. In reese, but its realli small so look up bay city first and then saginaw thnx
2007-08-23 18:42:16 · update #3
You are a minor,therefore the money goes to your mother. The money is given to her to support you because of your Dad's death. As long as the bills are being paid,SS will consider that money going to help support you. Out of that check,she can claim your share of the rent,cable,electric,food and any other household expenses are being paid with it. The money is not given for your personal use,it is given for support of the household.
Once you turn 18 and are still in school,the checks will come to you,until then,your mother is entitled to them.
2007-08-24 04:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say your aunt and/or cousing are witnesses. did they actually hear your grandfather actually tell her to give you the money? Is so then see a solicitor ASAP. If they did not actually hear him tell her, but only saw him give her the money then there is nothing you can do. The other side of the coin is there is nothing that says you have to have any contact with her, or allowe her any contact with you or your daughter.. Same goes for your sister. (IF you really hate her then there is nothing to prevent you continuing to go around and irritating her until she DOES have a heart attack.. And there is NO law says you MUST call an ambulance. I'll bet she dont have a will, in this case you and your sister will inherit all her stuff) [Its a shame so many people sake the simple route and assume everybody else is 100% honest, when its so simple to arrange things so it dont matter if they are honest or not. When you are talking about 10s of thousands of £s as with your grandfather, it would have cost very little (relative to the amount) to be 100% sure the money would go to the people you wanted to have it. But no - they penny pinch a few hundred £s and cause loads of problems and arguments]
2016-05-21 04:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by kira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
******* sick! I had the same bullshit happen to me! My dad died when I was 15...I'm now 21...but I had no freaking clue that I was suppose to get S.S.
until I moved in with my cousins cuz I hated my mom for remarrying a couple months later...my cousins informed me of the money...I was suppose to get over $1200 a month!!!!!! What a *****! My mom was a sleez-bag.
To make a long story short...my mom ended up killing herself when I was 18 years old...i miss her of course...never got along with her...but this is just another example of how selfish she was. She was never in her right mind...
To add all this up...I barely got any money for my dad's death...got not 1 cent from my mom dying...n have nothing to show for what money I did get cuz what do you know, since the rest of my family desided to just run out on me when my dad died...i ended up with a loser boyfriend that used me for my money...isn't that great!!!
But its okay, cuz that money was always "blood money" to me...
this was only the middle of the hell i've been through, but really it has only mad my a strong person!
2007-08-27 13:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you can handle this one, it sounds like you and your mom have some issues to work through. Start there.
Second, any money your mom receives is probably paid to her, not you. Be real sure before you add this "issue" to the list of problems you and your mom have.
I hope you and your mom can renew your love and bring peace back to your family. Try going to a church service this weekend. Spend the day together and talk or cry with each other.
2007-08-23 18:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Steve H 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The money is for your support. Your mother must be supporting you? When you turn 18 the checks will come to you as long as you are still in school. You can collect until you are 19 if you remain in school.
2007-08-23 18:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Legally, it's her's because you are a product of your father and her...so, she has every right to receive a check for you every month?...ever wonder how you eat?..go to school?..that sort of thing?..You know, a roof over your head?..
you could always go to court and emancipate yourself..but, at your age..doubt that would happen...though if you aren't careful, you might end up somewhere you don't want to be..think about that?...
2007-08-23 18:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know all the detail, but I think spouses can still draw a certain amount of their former partner's social security.
I had a grandfather who worked until he was almost 90, and when he passed, his wife still drew (I think so, anyway) on some of his SSN. Maybe it goes to half or something, I don't know.
2007-08-23 18:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not *your* money. It’s funds due to your mother to assist her in providing you with the basic necessities of life. As long as you have shelter, utilities, food, clothing, etc, then she is providing you with the basic necessities of life.
2007-08-23 20:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Call the family service agency in your area and ask for an advocate for yourself. You can find the phone number listed in the family court listings.
My sister is a paralegal in a family law firm, and they have this type of client every day. You do have help, but you have to call and ask for it.
If you can add your town, I might be able to add a local phone number for you. If you don't feel comfortable with that, please, look in your phone book, or call the family court and ask.
2007-08-23 18:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
i would contact a lawyer and find out what to do
2007-08-23 18:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by missbabygator1983 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋