If If, If a married man and you are in love, first wife knows it but cant do much about it. Their relationship was cold for some time,but for any reason he cant divorce his wife;
Do you rather have your man marry you and you become a second wife and have children with him, or you prefer to be just a mistress all your life and have children with him.
Both ways you still share him w first wife.
Which one you choose?
2007-08-23 17:59:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Edit:
Baseballdad,
I have nothing to do w the issue, I just curious after reading some answers here some where, that intrique me to ask this question.
2007-08-23 18:12:25 · update #1
Oye 2007,
I dont get your point
2007-08-24 04:16:00 · update #2
Of your choices, if the first wife won't or what ever can't divorce but is okay with the relationship, I would find somewhere that polygamy is legal and get married. Unfortunately, I don't know of any place in the US where this is actually legal. There are places in Utah and Arizona that polygamy is practiced by religion but it still isn't legal. So you might have to marry outside of the country and this country wouldn't recognize it anyway. Good Luck and many happy years as the mistress. Share and share alike.
My question for you, is the wife a friend of yours? Is everyone friendly in this situation? Then why worry about getting married?
2007-08-23 18:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A married man has no business even looking at any other woman than his wife; there is no such thing as "second wife" that is called adultery. The marriage vows say in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or worse, period. TILL DEATH DO YOU PART!!!
period.
Any man having any relantionship with any other woman besides his wife does not deserve to live; and any woman who has affair with a married man is nothing more than slut.
2007-08-23 18:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. He is being selfish. He just wanted to have both of you. Why can't he get a divorce? For whatever reasons, it is just excuse one after one another. It is not right to begin with the way he is treating you and his wife. To me, I would never share my man/husband with nobody, eventhough I love him more than anything in the world. And if he love me enough, he would do the same. You have to love yourself before you love anyone. If you don't then who will? There is enough fish in the sea. Why share?
2007-08-23 18:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id rather be a mistress! That way you can hit the road when you find out what an a** he is ( right about when he brings home wife # 3...)
2007-08-23 18:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by RedHairedTempest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters are such self-deceiving suckers. They seem to have invented the concept of a 2nd wife. Huh?
I know a guy who did this for 7 years, he's nuts off course, and now both his "wives" are slowly taking him to the cleaners. He gave up everything he worked extremely hard for, for over 17 years, to have his illegitimate wife.
His choices, now he must pay as life dictates, and believe me, he's paying all right.
2007-08-23 18:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why he couldn't divorce his wife if he WANTED to. So would it be better to be a man's whore than wait until he divorces his first wife and become his second wife? What is it about being a whore that is attractive to you?
2007-08-23 20:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose to leave this guy... No woman wants to be number 2, and either way she is number 2. A guy can always divorce his wife and there is no reason to have two wives..... wacky mormons!
2007-08-23 18:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far away from the married man, it will be adultery if there are any relations with him. He is a cheater and player if he is not faithful to his wife. He will cheat on the one he is cheating with garanteed.
2007-08-23 18:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be his second wife so my kids would be legit.
However he may not want to marry you just have kids with you. Not a good place to be if you as me.
My policy is...if you are married and we think we may click...get a divorce and I might date you.
2007-08-23 18:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. There are plenty of men out there who aren't taken. Whatever the reason this man claims to stay with his wife is not good enough. He stays with her because he wants to and don't let him tell you any different.
2007-08-23 18:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋