depression taking over my life?

Question

i'm so upset and sad over my recent breakup with my boyfriend. we were together for 7 years. i havent spoke to him in only 2 months but it feels like forever. im so hurt that he is seeing a girl that is within our circle of friends. i cant stop crying and thinking and re-thinking it all. this wound is so deep with him and my others friends not telling me anything. i wanna see a doctor to make me feel better. please help me let go.

Answer 1

Maybe you should see a doctor. The only way to get over it is surround yourself with positive friends, and get on with yourlife. In time it will be easier, and don't try to get info on him, it only makes it worse for you. Just move on. Take care.

Answer 2

With friends like that who needs enemies that won't tell you anything about what is going on with him. Try and stop dwelling on the relationship it probably consumes you everyday. Stop hanging out with the friends because they obviously don't want to get involved. What you need to do is find something to fill the void left in your life. Find some new friends. Find a new activity. Get involved in a hobby or sport you like or used to like. I know it all sounds so simple but I am sure there are some things that you put by the side when you were dating and now that you have your freedom you can do again. You have to start looking at this as an opportunity rather than a setback. If he was the one than you would still be together. He showed you his true colors would you really want to be with someone like that. Eventually you will find someone with your new friends during your new activities but right now you need time to find yourself, time to heal from the hurt. Don't deny yourself that. But also don't let him control your life by consumeing your thoughts everyday. Be the master of your life. You run the show not anybody else remember that and you will be fine. It may take a little time a little tears, a few laughs, a little anger. But eventually when it is all said and done you will be able to look back on this and say I am a stronger person for it. Good luck girl. Keep your head up.

Answer 3

well dear, i'm sorry of what's happened. i am sure it sucks big time. here's what i do on those days : i cry (alone), and stop after one cry. then i step outside and stand under the sun, sit on the grass, and inhale the air. just doing that, and understanding that at the very moment i'm still alive, the pain might be outstanding, but i survive, and the fact that i can still enjoy the wind breeze and the sunlight is the fact that i can survive every second of my pain. that i'm strong enough, and i keep saying that in mind until i really believe it.

and this also helps, numb your feeling for a while, so you can continue with your function, maybe school, or work. you can't let the sadness eat you alive, not especially when your ex has seemed to move on. how to numb your feeling? PUT HIM AT THE BACK OF YOUR MIND, AND PUT HIM THERE. dont bring him back to the surface, think about other things. soon enough you'll forget. remember you have to WANT to forget him, don't persist on still thinking about him. let it go, i know it hurts, but also remember, when it hurts, it means that it's healing slowly.

and lastly, quoting a line from U2's song "stuck in a moment",
it's just a moment, this time will pass..

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear of your broken heart! Yes.... see a doctor & get some help for yourself. You may be surprised at the help a doctor can offer. Don't let depression ruin your life. I know pain & the heart is the worst pain in the world. i dont know your religion beliefs but with my broken heart i surrendered my life over to the Lord & he mended my broken heart & supplied me with the strength I needed to deal with life. I also got an overwhelming feeling of joy & happiness that the lord our god put in my heart. I know it is hard to just forgett & move on with your life after a breakup especially this long & i am sure you loved him. i believe he probley has another girl to help mend his heart as well. Spice up you life with a new friend or go get yourself a massage even a new makeover can make you feel better. Don't stay inside & dewell go out & try to occupie your mind with your hobbies or get a new interest in something you have never done before. I am so sorry I will pray for you, Get well soon so you can start something more interesting & new in your life ok.

Answer 5

I am really sorry your hurting so much and I know how you feel. It takes time to heal. Try to keep busy and if you believe in God pray and talk to people you can trust. Talking really helps. It brings out the pain. Sometimes crying a lot is actually a healing process as well. I does make you feel better. What also help is excersise. Takes out a lot of anger that you may have with the break up. Take it day by day. Hang in there. The pain will eventually fade. My heart goes out to you and I am also suffering from a broken heart. But I also know that God will give me the man I truely deserve and he will do the same for you.

Take care of yourself.

Answer 6

First of all, in looking at the answers you already received...DO NOT call anyone's number. There are predators all over the internet. You must concentrate on other things that interest you right now. Realize that life moves on and you are still young and will find the right one eventually. Don't try to rush it, just let it happen. This is pretty normal and typical behavior for a young person. For some reason, some young people tend to cling to the heavy emotion rather than letting it go. You can't change it, so let it go. Don't spread your sadness to your friends; they'll tire of it soon enough and drop you. Hang on to the good friends you have and enjoy them.

Answer 7

I think it's great that you recongnize your depression and want help for it. People can get stuck in depressive states for years and do nothing about it. Break ups are hard, especially when you feel like the other person got over it so quickly. Some people move on to other relationships more quickly but that doesn't mean that they are over the old one any faster. Talk to someone, You can call you insurance company or the local health department for a referral, also look at the numbers people have given you for answers. You will feel better, I know it doesn't feel that way now but you will. My heart is with you.

Answer 8

Thats sad you poor thing. Since your not together there must of been a bad thing that occured so are you crying over him or the fact that he is familiar to you ? Get up get dressed make yourself pretty everyday and get out there and kick *** in the world. Dont value yourself only in someone else but love yourself. Go out with family and friends,buy a book or a puppy. And if you want to see a doc medication can mask the symptoms but only time can make you heart heal. Good luck .

Answer 9

Weird I have a friend just like you, but she's lime 14, but nevermind. I can tell your depressed, but it's obviously not for no reason it's something either something your not tellin us going on now, or you are just really upset over past events, or even loneliness. To be honest I get lime that sometimes too, but that's because I know I feel alone no one understands its just me and my music my fam doesn't get me either, but what makes it worst is that my ex. Broke up with me because she thought we seemed like to good to be friends, and her best friend told me to let her make the first move, and obviously I shouldn't have done that, because we broke up, but for a while I was down until I started to look at myself, and saw that I can really do or be anything, and that I can do better, and if everyone hates me or loves me I'll be ok. :) sorry if I didn't help, but just stay positive even if it gets hard, and try to find a outlet, because most likely very few people will understand you.

Answer 10

this is an excellent question, and I think that you will get some really good answers from woman. However, I can only answer as a man who has gone throught this as well what worked for me.

The best thing to do is also the hardest. Cut yourself off cold turkey from him because hanging on to thoughts is not going to help.

You will also need to focus on yourself as a way to do this. The healthiest way to do this, if you do not already is to habitually exercise. This is very adictave and will help get your mind off of him while you are doing. the added benefit is that you will improve your self confidence as well as your appearance.

I'm sure the ladies will have better answers, but I hope this helps

Answer 11

if you want to go to the doctor then you should.

but it just takes time... all you have to do is keep your self occupied and GO OUT. go meet new people, go to the clubs. read a book, watch tv. cook and bake. just make it so that you don't have spare time to daydream or think about things.
you could always talk to him about it and see what he has to stay. see if he could possibly give you two another chance. i don't know why you two broke up but if you didn't do anything wrong why don't you try to be friends? i'm sure you'd rather him in your life than nothing at all, maybe? i'm sorry, hope this helps. good luck with whatever you decide to do sweetie!