I'll get straight to the chase, I've forgiven my friend for many things, but now she's done something I don't want to forgive her for, some of my other friends think I should forgive her, but I seriously don't want to. She's not worth it....
The issue is that she's pretty much asking for forgiveness-- which I would give to her if she outright asked. She's been acting like she never did anything wrong... My mom think's she's gone mental, but I know her to well to think that. She remembered our friend from 3 years ago. Basically she's being 'kind' rather than rude and hotheaded and acting like the world revolves around her.
Don't get me wrong, she's not that bad, but sometimes she's just so horrid!
Do I have to forgive her? Should I forgive her?
2007-08-23 15:38:54 · 12 answers · asked by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't have to read this part:
The deal is, she insulted a friend of mine, like a serious insult, it's a huge deal to me.
If she had insulted me, I wouldn't care less 5 minutes after. It's just that the girl that she insulted is like my sister, and she totally dissed her, and her parents. She does it all the time, which is what I have forgiven her for before.
Hope that part helps....
2007-08-23 16:04:18 · update #1
Well you didnt really say what she did, but you should always forgive someone, especially a friend of several years. If you don't, I can guarantee you that your friendship will never be the same again. You can't carry around your offence and bitterness towards her and still be friends with her. And if you don't forgive her, you will just keep growing more and more mad at her and dislike her more and more. When you allow bitterness and unforgiveness to come into you, it just grows stronger and stronger and is guaranteed to ruin relationships.
So yes, forgive her. But if she keeps hurting you over and over, then you might not want to be as close of a friend with her. Still forgive her, be kind to her, respect her, but just don't be as close to her anymore or else she will keep offending and hurting you. Slowly let go of this friendship because it sounds like it is unhealthy and is not helping anyone at all. Just still forgive her and be nice, but don't be as close anymore.
2007-08-23 15:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Just Wondering 777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can forgive a spiritually sick person because of the fact that they are sick. That does not mean we condon their behavior. Nor should we continue to allow their behavior to effect us. Put your own spiritual health in check by not letting your self-esteem take such a beating. You must let your friend know how her behavior is effecting you. Do it while you are calm and don't do it in front of others. Before you do it let her know you value her friendship. Don't try to control the conversation. Be objective. Try not to condemn. It may take more than once. She may value your friendship as well and be willing to change. The answers will come as long as you practice love, patience and tolerance.
2007-08-23 23:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jayman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation which in your case wasnt too clearly stated in this question. i mean, compare her good side with her bad. my best friend and i go through some tough times but in the end we realize we're the only ones that understand each other and it brings us closer. if you feel like you should forgive her, just forgive her. it wont hurt you. friends fight, they argue but eventually, you guys will have other important issues to discuss and youll get through the rough patch. if its something serious, disregard everything i said because the situation is what really makes the difference.
2007-08-23 22:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by adoreemee_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never have to forgive someone. if you think of life after letting her go, and it doesn't seem much different, or even seems easier to live, and you can't stand to be with her half of the time, i would say not to give her so many chances. friends need to offer friendship as well and expect it. cliche statement coming up, but there's no other way to put it: listen to your heart.
2007-08-23 22:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by waddlin' along 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely do NOT have to forgive her. Things heal up during time, but if it's something that in your mind is totally unforgivable then you are not really obligated to forgive her.
It all really comes down to your choice, and what's she's done.
2007-08-23 22:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Marty Kirra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depends on how much you enjoy holding the past over her head. You don't have to be friends, you don't have to like or forget what she did, but you can still forgive for yourself to be done with it...not for her to feel better.
2007-08-23 22:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her.
Call her less and less.
Let the friendship fade.
She has a character problem.
There is nothing you can do about that.
Only SHE can make the change.
2007-08-24 12:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you friends are going one way but you are headed toward the other do what u think is right me I wouln't if you forgivin her plenty of times or I would give her 1 more chance
2007-08-23 22:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Corrin24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. if you are not ready to forgive her then you shouldn't....... don't force yourself to forgive someone because of your friends told you so, so take some time to think if you are ready and willing to forgive her.......
2007-08-23 23:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Beverly Anne N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hells no! if sum1 did dat dey aint a tru freind n u shouldnt 4give dem cuz she needs to learn tha hard way dat shes not gunna get things her way
2007-08-23 23:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bree. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋