2007-08-23 13:41:57 · 25 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never, gave flowers to my wife of 13 yrs of marriage. Maybe, this is why my wife, doesn't love me anymore. Like she used to in the begining, the days of our youth. I am not sure, how important the little things, can affect a wife's performance in general to her husband.
2007-08-23 13:46:37 · update #1
I am so sorry guys! I really didn't mean to post this ackward question! Its just that, some of us guys, don't quite understand, that God made women so complicated. Its very hard for me to understand how a woman loves and thinks! lol hahaha I know I should not laugh about this! But guys an girls! Thanks anyways! For your Feedback!
2007-08-23 13:59:20 · update #2
Damm Mare! I feel so bad! I am a lousy husband for not giving any flowers at all to my wife, of 13 yrs of marriage. lol haha I know! This is not funny! But I still laugh at ya'll answers! Thanks guys!
2007-08-23 14:04:19 · update #3
Anytime it is placed on your heart to do so...even if you pick them yourself.
I'm sure you heard of "it's the little things that count" to a woman and you're probably puzzled over what that means...well, picking flowers is one of those little things, opening a door for her is one. Even giving her extra care when she is sick. Helping her with dishes. Even buying something small to surprise her like her favorite candy bar when you stop at a gas station.
Basically, the smallest things that you think would mean nothing to your wife will mean the most because it tells her you love her and that you think of her all the time. I hope this makes sense. I'm trying to translate here. :-) I know, women are mysterious aren't they?
So yes, buy her flowers whenever! I read a study once where it said women who receive flowers smile more than women who don't get them.
2007-08-24 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by art14ist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best things in life are the things we do for our spouse.. My husband even compliments when i make his something a simple as a peanut butter sandwich..Flowers are nothing if you don't do the rest that a marriage needs.. It is so sad how some husbands are more willing to spend time on TV rather then the person they love.. I don't get flowers i get actions of appreciation from my husband.. I do the same in return. I count my blessing, because he is a true blessing that God gave me.. Don't give her flowers instead look at her beauty and help her,that is what shows concern and appreciation.. Flowers only count when all the rest has been the priority in your life. To late for flowers but never to late to try to win her love back by doing nice things for her and showing her you love her.. Love is an action not a word.
2007-08-23 21:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flowers aren't everything. Men have a tough time realizing that offering a listening ear is all a woman needs at times - or a comforting hug, a loving statement like "You are hurting , aren't you?" or "You are under a lot of pressure, aren't you?" Listening to your wife talk without offering quick solutions is the only way to meet her needs to be known. Flowers then become the finishing touch!
2007-08-23 21:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Committed Ministries 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband gets me flowers on our anniversary, my birthday, and whenever he is out of county for a long time (he's a firefighter). Every once in a while he'll just pop up with some out of nowhere, which is really sweet. I think your wife would appreciate it if you showed her how much you care for her. Talk and when you can buy flowers, buy them. Personally I wouldn't mind if it was something hand picked, it's the thought that counts. I hope things work out with you two, good luck :o)
2007-08-23 20:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by ~{Graciela}~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little things like that are important. You can do things like sit next to her and caress her, run your fingers through her hair, take baths together, just walk up to her and give her hugs once in a while. Of course threre's always the flowers you mentioned, jewelry, but even those costly things aren't as important as the physical closeness, affection and appreciation.
2007-08-23 20:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say a couple of times not included special days. It a given on Valentines and birthday. Then you need to do it for no reason at all except "because I love you" or maybe "just wanted to cheer you up", or "just wanted to make your day". We also like cards. If she gets the mail at home send them in the mail to her. Or if you can send her mail to work, do that. It is the small things that count. Even bringing home a single red rose it great!
2007-08-23 20:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband will go out and pick me roses from my rose garden.(he is not cheap) I like flowers that will stay alive and not die in a few days so tell him not to waste money. Anyway, when he does this he says things like a rose for the love of my life....He calls me everyday and asks me how is the most beautiful woman (town) ? It does matter.....sorry
2007-08-23 20:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,a special occassion calls for some nicely arranged flowers from the florist,say,her birthday,your anniversary or valentines day(some women like me make a big deal out of valentines day if only for the romantic atmosphere it brings,lol) but you can either give something else with the flowers,like her favorite chocolate brand or something sweet that she likes(except if shes not much into confectioneries that is) or a stuffed toy(unless she had this idea that teddy bears & stuff are only for children & teenagers).
it's nice to know that some men still think of ways to woo their wives after some years of being together.most men i knew thinks that romantic stuff dont fit well with married life & think its corny or its just for young lovers but really,simple things matters with us women no matter what age & the husband giving us small things,be they flowers or a small piece of paper with the words "i love you" in it do matter to us as it gives us assurance of how valuable we are in our husband's life & sight.
btw,you can give her flowers & other stuff anytime you feel like giving it to show her how much you care,but be sure you maintain the element of surprise to make the act of giving more special.
2007-08-23 20:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her any kindness. Many have been suggested. Show appreciation and do it without the expectation of a reward.
You are not entitled to sex after doing something nice.
You are not entitled to "Get out of jail FREE" Card, for example, you may not ignore her for a week because you got her flowers.
Ooh, I sound a little jaded, but truly, be kind now and again, be giving. Just because.
2007-08-23 21:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by mouser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she like flowers.?
I don't care for flowers. They die and they are a waste of money to me.
I love kisses and hugs for no reason. Holding my hand, just because you want to. Call me our of the blue and ask me about MY day. At night, play with my hair.
If you have children, give her a day to herself!!! Most days that I have them, I am so much more appreciative to my husband because he thought of me (I'm a stay at home Mom).
I have been married for 12 years and love my husband to pieces (just don't buy me flowers:))
2007-08-23 21:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋