2 Week old son won't ly in his crib/pram to go asleep after feeding.?

Question

My husband took 2 weeks off work when our son was born and he had him in his arms for most of the 2 weeks now the baby won't settle on his own he wants to fall asleep in my arms after breast feeding. Any suggestions on getting him to sleep in his crib himself. Do I just let him cry or is he too young

Answer 1

When my daughter was a newborn she needed to be held or rocked for awhile after a feeding before she could fall asleep. I usually held her for at least 10 minutes before I tried to set her into her bassinet for a nap, even then sometimes she woke up and we had to rock some more to get her back to sleep.

It's totally normal at that age - they are just tiny babies, they NEED your comfort - don't deny your baby such an important bonding experience.

My baby is now 6 months old and she won't let me just "hold" her anymore (I can carry her upright, but no cradling in arms, rocking in lap, etc) - she has too much energy and wants to be on the floor or sitting up to discover everything. She's too active to enjoy the quiet moments. The only time she lets me rock her now is before bed.

I really miss those times when she was a newborn and I could just cradle her in my arms for half the day and look at her beautiful face and just enjoy the loving feelings of being a new mommy.

Please don't try to make your boy grow up too fast or break his little heart by letting him "cry it out". These times won't last forever and you need to enjoy them while you can.

Answer 2

He is way to young to be expecting him to fall asleep on his own and even to consider letting him cry. At this age he is still trying to adjust to life outside of the womb. My family has always reffered to this as the 4th trimester. Hold and comfort your baby as much as possible at this young age. The bonding you do now will help give them independence in the future. And trust me know matter what anyone says, you can not spoil a baby by holding them, they are crying for a reason, and do not understand about manipluation.

If you can not always hold her in your arms try putting her in a carrier of some sort. I really liked my sling, I found the baby born carriers complicated to put on.

Answer 3

He's too young to cry it out. Just let him fall asleep in your arms and then sneak him into his crib. A goof way to know that he is sleeping soundly enough to be snuck into his crib is that his arm will get floppy. Gernerally about ten mintutes after his eyes close. Enjoy the cuddle time.

Answer 4

Two weeks is awfully young to expect him to "get" sleeping alone and putting himself to sleep. I had to sleep with my boy on my chest for a few weeks just to get some sleep. It was either that or staying awake, frustrated that I couldn't get him to sleep on his own. Hold him, love him, and in time, work with getting him to put himself to sleep. He's new to this world and doesn't get what's going on. I'd wait until about 12 weeks or so to start the cry it out method. It took until 4 or 5 months before my son was able to go to sleep on his own. And even though he can, some nights are better than others.

Answer 5

Just let him fall asleep where you are, lay next to him or touch him some how. He's too young to understand being alone. He doesnt even know HOW to sleep at this age, so asking him to do it on his own is crazy.

In a month or so it might be time to lay next to him and let him cry himself to sleep a little. But not now. Its just too soon.

Answer 6

I had this same problem with my middle child. All the doctors told me to let them cry for 15 minutes and then go back in there by her. What happened was that they have learned a habit and they need to unlearn it. It takes 3 days to form a habit, and 7 to 10 days to unlearn it. It might be hard for you for a while, but just lay the baby down in his crib and let him cry for 15 minutes before you go get him. After a few days of doing this, he will fall asleep on his own.

Answer 7

he is only 2 weeks!

this is completely normal and healthy for him to fuss without your arms around him

love that boy all that you can.....him knowing that you are there will teach him to settle himself eventually.....not the other way around

my baby is now 9 weeks....breastfed also and because i pick her when i see she is going to cry she has a lot of trust in me......this young she already is self soothing

at bedtime either she will fall asleep nursing or i put her in her crib next to my bed while she looks drunk....when i lay her down she will open her eyes.......make eye contact with me and see my smiling face and she will then close her eyes and relax herself

and she has been sleeping around 5-8 hours at night!...awsome but i wake sooo engorged
give him time.........dont get frustrated or impatient......just relax and accept that he needs and loves you and your love for him will teach him to settle easier in just a few short weeks

good luck

Answer 8

Children that young don't generally soothe themselves to sleep. Right now it's best to let him fall asleep in your arms and then lay him down, they feel more protected and secure that way. When he gets older you'll be able put him down while he's still awake and he'll be able to self-soothe until he falls asleep.

Answer 9

My 4 month old is still like that most of the time. Try swaddling, that can help. Even if your son doesn't like it, try again later. I've found my daughter goes through phases. Sometimes she likes it, sometimes she doesn't. You might just have to hold him. Enjoy cuddling with your baby :)

Answer 10

let him cry for about 5 minutes, he could fall asleep on his own..now if he cries for more then 10 minutes pick him up..just do that everytime and maybe that might work!