My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years and over the last few months we've discussed getting an apartment. A couple days ago he confessed that recently he's had doubts about our relationship and wasn't sure if he was making the right decision, wasn't sure if he'd lived enough to settle down...but while he was in the process (while on the phone with me) of saying that we should be friends for a while, he said that as he was saying this to me, he felt like a part of him was dying. Since then, he said he discovered a deeper, more mature love for me and has no more doubts. He said that all of our plans were overwhelming, the thought of such a huge commitment - but now he's sure.
But during the phone conversation, the same "part of me is dying feeling" happened to me. It was the worst I've ever felt. How can I get rid of my depression and changed feelings to improve our relationship? I feel betrayed that his feelings could change and then come back so quickly. I'm so confused.
2007-08-23 11:41:52 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be glad that he is able to talk to you openly about his feelings.
He just got scared about the moving in part, not the way he feels about you.
I am sure it broke your heart to hear the words he said.
But I believe he was more or less just thinking out loud, to YOU.
I think the best Solution is to tell him how you feel and hopefully as fast as he was able to work out things in his head, you will too.
Good luck, faith
2007-08-23 16:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋