my roommate and i are fighting all the time?

Question

we fight about everything. im extremly introverted, and she is not overly extroverted, but by comparison, she sometimes seems to be. she wants me to want to go out and do stuff, which im perfectly willing to do, but i don't want to go out any more thatn i want to stay in, and since it takes less effort, i'd rather just stay put. she expects me to once in a while say "let's go do bla bla bla" the thing is, i could say 'let's go do something', but that would be my exact words, and that's not enough for her. she also doesn't like the fact that i always say im sorry. not because im insincere, but just because i say it so much. i don't even know what to do in this town, i've lived here for a year, and about the only places i know to go to have any fun is the movie theater, which closes before we get off of work, and a restruant, which is nice, except we are both on a limited budget. is there anything i can force myself to do? where can i find something fun for us to do? what is fair?

if i just all of a sudden forced myself to be more outgoing, and found something for us to do, would that make the fighting stop? i don't even really know what she's into, and since im pretty passive about everything, i wouldn't
even know where to start looking for things for us to do together. she wants to hang out, but i've never had friends that did that, where do people hang out? what do they do? do we really need to leave the apartment to hang out? i feel like she's expecting me to read her mind, but she says that isn't the case, she just wants me to come up with some ideas of my own, but i'm just not that type of a person, so what should i do? can i save this friendship? she feels like she's doing all the work, and i don't care... which is partly true, i don't care if we do anything or nothing, i thought friendship was listening when the other has a problem, caring when the other is hurt, and sitting next to the other when they're lonely... she thinks it's hanging out
HELP!!!

Answer 1

Well you need to help your confuse, before you can help hers. Realize that most relationships are based on PRIDE in our society, while, which was a good point (you smartie, you), you on the other hand see the truth of friendship, that its about heart, and feelings, not being cool and doing what everyone else is doing. So your most likly starting to see there really isn't a friendship there at all, just two associates forced to relate to each other, for reasons I'm not quite sure. Almost would seem if you give it enough time she'll find someone else to go out with. But your right to feel wrong about going "out" its not the best way to spend ones time, or ones friendship. Your at a time thou were its about seeing the problems for your own, so go out to the student uniou, some dance, a get together, a colleage party! (woo-hoo) just keep your eyes open and your heart on guard, becasue were a lost generation, and sex, pride, drugs, and pop culture is the only thing most of us feel for.