this black guy was offended when I asked him what soul food restaurant he likes to eat at. I don't know but he was pretty angry(flaring nostrils don't lie). why was he angry? are blacks that sensitive when nonblacks use the word soul to describe their eatries?
2007-08-23 10:21:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
maybe he just didnt like your face
2007-08-23 10:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some people are ultra-sensitive when others are referring to their lifestyle, foods, and other cultural things. Blacks in particular seem to think whites are making fun of them or looking down at them. This fellow probably misconstrued what you felt was an honest question. Using the term, "soul food" made him think you were being derogatory. Chances are, if you had simply asked his choice of a restaurant without saying "soul food", he wouldn't have taken offense. Yes, I do believe some minority groups are more sensitive than others, and it shouldn't be that way. If you know this fellow, by all means apologize for inadvertently offending him, and explain that you weren't trying to be patronizing, but just wanted some general information. It would be a wonderful world if everyone understood everyone and could get along, but that most likely will never happen.
2007-08-23 17:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, don't hang out with someone who is so easily offended, especially since you had no intention of offending them. I have no idea what would be so offensive about someone other than a black person to say "Soul Food". That guy can eat alone.
I am going out on a limb here...maybe the asker has eaten at a soul food restaraunt before and LIKES Soul Food and he has no other way to describe it...or to ask his black friend if he'd like to go for some. Would everyone be so friggin OFFENDED if a black guy asked an Italian American (sigh...more PC garbage) if they wanted to go the Olive Garden??? PC gone WILD....and all that is going to happen are bad feelings and everyone going hungry.
2007-08-23 17:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OKay you just met an idiot .They come in every race . I think you should know that .
I was in England and their is this African american lady who is extremly nice she own an restaurant serving "SOUL " food and she does not care ....majority of blacks would not give at all ...why is it that one angry black man would make you think all black people are like that .
When a angry white racist burn a cross its like a black person then also stereotyping and saying all whites ar like this ...accept idiots come in all races
I have black friends and if you ask them they would go into a whole topic and discussion about the food with you .....and they would not flare their nostrils either
2007-08-23 17:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even though I'm not sure completely what context in which you asked the question, that isn't offensive to me and most African American people I know. FYI: Soul food is an acceptable term for food traditionally eaten by African Americans.Maybe (hopefully not), you offended him in some other way. Asking for a recommedation, instead of implying that he even eats soul food might have been a better approach.
2007-08-23 17:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by kanyeluva2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doubt that REALLY happened, hoss.
I work with a black guy who doesn't care for (but will eat if offered) watermelon (too many seeds) doesn't care for basketball (play or watch), only has really danced at his wedding (badly at that), doesn't listen to RAP or HIP HOP (notice I didn't say 'music'), drives truck and dresses conservatively, drives an F-150 pick up WITHOUT 'cool rims', and uses proper English when talking (even to other blacks), didn't drop out of school, has never used drugs or sold any. No, he is NOT a NASCAR fan. Oh, he grew up in S.E. Virginia not the NAWTH.
Doesn't fit YOUR stereotype of blacks, does he.
2007-08-23 20:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by AmericanPatriot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Black people are not sensitive about the word soul, referring to food, music or anything else.
2007-08-23 17:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what his favorite restaurant is.
You wouldn't want him to ask you what European restaurant you like to eat at. Just like Europeans have italian, French, and Spanish,southern American, Blacks have Jamaican, Hatian, southern american. Paula Dean in a white woman who cooks on TV and her food is pretty close to any food that I have tasted in many "soul food" restaurants. Is there white soul food?
2007-08-23 17:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by shoptheflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because an African American restaurant does not equal a soul food one. It could as easily have been Cajun or maybe an African one.
2007-08-23 17:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by {*Kiterya A.k.A Ms Caramel*} 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it was probably b/c you assumed he eats soul food just 'cause he's black. it was the assumption (and stereotype) more than semantics, most likely.
2007-08-23 17:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by ms. g 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...how about--GASP--a "restaurant"?
Why are you assuming that he only eats "soul food?"
My favorite is sushi, personally.
2007-08-23 17:28:06 · answer #11 · answered by eyikoluvsandy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋