My wife watches Tv. She doesn't read books. I am currently reading Harry Potter.
Someone I work with (in another state) is also reading Harry Potter, so she can talk to me about the books. She already read them a long time ago but wants to discuss them with me.
So she is filling one of my needs, to share discussion about a book with.
Am I . . . . . . .
cheating?
2007-08-23 10:09:57 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. But if you make an extra effort to hide it from your wife then for some people that could be cheating. I don't know. People are different.
2007-08-23 10:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Page 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
No u are just discussing the book or are you doing more than discussing the book?? if you think this you are in love because you are both interested in Harry you will need to watch out couples don't have to like the same things maybe some but not ALL !!
2007-08-23 10:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you make your wife interested in harry potter by buying her the movie(s) of the same book(s) that your're reading. Maybe then she'll be interested in what you're reading also. I also suggest telling your wife that you are talking with this other woman about the book and the book only!!!.....
2007-08-23 10:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, but it could lead to it. Does your wife know you and her share the enthusiasm of these books? If you haven't told her, I'd say your on the right road for cheating, but if all is out in the open then there shouldn't be a problem.....but spending time with another woman isn't always wise. Be on guard as well.
2007-08-23 10:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by ellen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with sharing a love of a book. I don't think I would mind if my husband talked to another woman about a common interest, however if at any time you find your self comparing the wife to the new friend or criticizing her, I would then go back to my spouse and make a connection and leave the friendship alone.
2007-08-23 10:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There must be more going on than just reading and discussing a book if you're concerned about it. Ask your wife what she thinks or what she is uncomfortable with.
2007-08-23 10:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not cheating - you've made a new friend. I am sure you would tell your wife too, but I also understand in marriage there's this weird custom of "partner approved" friends which usually means no friendship no matter the nature of the friendship with members of the opposite sex, especially single members of the opposite sex. Sad really that marriage partners can get so sensitive and possessive about the "best-friend" aspect of their marriage, especially when they let us down as friends.
Does it sound like maybe I'm projecting? Yeah, erm, perhaps I am. :)
2007-08-23 10:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so it is only books she wants to discuss with you it is not cheating, or is she using the book discussions for an alternative purpose?
If it feels like you are cheating, then you are cheating.
2007-08-23 10:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chatting with a co-worker about a book is definitely *not* cheating, as long as you are discussing only the book. If things progress beyond that, you are entering "thin ice".
2007-08-23 10:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are talking about Harry Potter. Most people enjoy good conversation.
2007-08-23 10:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...so you can't talk about literature without another human being without it being considered cheating? As long as you're not hiding it from your wife, what's the problem? Just don't be secretive. For God's sake, what has American society become? This would be Nathaniel Hawthorne's worst nightmare!
2007-08-23 10:18:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋