Withering away to nothing......plz help....?

Question

recently went thru a divorce and have lost alot of wieght...I'm a pretty small girl as it is...I'm 5'3 and weight about 118-120 normally well now I'm down to like 102...i've lost alot and know cant seem to gain it back....when I get depressed I have no desire to eat...I wish it was the other way around but it's not....what can I do to gain my wieght back...plz help.....my clothes even feels disgusting on me....I soo hate my body right now...

Answer 1

Your weight is not the problem it is a symptom of your unhappiness. The cure is to rid yourself of the anxiety and depression usually associated with that event. When you return to a happy state your body will also. You cannot treat the symptom effectively without treating the disease also. The worry of the depression and loss of weight adds to the problem. Stop compounding your problem and fix the depression. The other things will fall into place or correct themselves. Otherwise you will spen an inordinate amount of time fixing the things that are not wrong and the result will be the same. The problem will still be there. Fix that and the symptoms will go away. Or you could just have me cook for you till you reach the desired weight but the depression would go away also cause you would have to laugh and have fun while I cook as that is required. One or two weeks of having fun and home cooked food would put a smile on your face and bounce back on your frame. To keep the disease from coming back I would recommend you keep the chef for the rest of your life to prevent reoccurances and promote your good health. See you smiled as you read this and you need to make a habit of smiling and keeping your head up. There you smiled again. Your on the road to recovery already.

Answer 2

I was the same as you, I am 5'2. At the end of this whole thing I ended up around 90 lbs. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, my brain was like it had altheimers. Some one told me and it is true, this too shall pass. Some days it was all I could do to put one foot in front of the other. I left my ex because of serious emotional abuse. I think it had an after shock. Anyhow, I learned to take benedryl for sleeping, and found it gave me the munchies....I ate alot of cereal. Finally when I started socializing again, started putting pieces of my life back together, I became stronger, hungier, sleepier and remembered things so much better. It takes time, I think it is normal and that you will be fine.

Answer 3

I'm 5'7" and weighed 136lbs when I got divorced. I got down to 115lbs because I couldnt eat either. I also couldn't sleep, couldn't work, couldn't function. This went on for a couple months and then I had a major breakdown and ended up in the hospital. During my stay, I was put on meds (some of the side effects were that the med made you sleepy and hungry) so it solved my weight problem in a few months. Don't wait like I did, please go and see a doctor immediately. Your physical and mental health will get worse the longer you wait and do nothing.

Answer 4

Most people lose weight during a divorce cause it's a time of change. Some people over-eat.

I'd say go see your dr. and get on some anti-depressants or talk to a counselor on a regular basis. Your not -eating is a result of the stress in your life.

Answer 5

I'm the same as you. I lose weight when I get depressed. Nothing sounds good and if I force myself to eat, it makes me queasy.
But you HAVE to eat!
It will actually help make you feel better. Try eating very small meals. Make every calorie count. Nuts, protein bars, even ice cream would help. And don't forget to drink.
Getting some food in you will give you more energy, and it won't be long before you start feeling better.
Good luck.

Answer 6

You need to go to the doctor before it gets any worse, please. It's probably some type of depression, and they will know how to help. Be sure to make a list before you go of all the different symptoms you have and how you are feeling. You may get in there and forget alot of it. Good luck and get to the doctor. NOW!

Answer 7

This happened to me after my divorce, too. I needed to lose a little, but then it got out of hand. You definitely need to see your doctor. He or she will most likely prescribe you an anti-depressant and suggest some counseling so you can work through the grief of losing your husband. Even if the marriage was bad, it is still a loss! And please make sure you are at least taking vitamins while you work on getting your appetite back. Big hug to you and best of luck!!! :-)

Answer 8

First of all you need to love who you are no matter what weight you are.Find in yourself who you are and what you desire in life....you are wonderful person im sure.
The next thing to do is go to grocery store and buy some ensure..they are full of calories and vitamins...they come in variety of flavors and you that way you just have to drink something..tropical smoothie is another great option they offer variety and those are loaded with calories also..
to get you back to weight you feel good at ..
just remember when one door closes another opens im sure theres someone more worthy of your love waiting to share your life with you.

Answer 9

Drink lots of milkshakes, ice cream anything with high fat content and do see if the medical field can help you.

Sorry you are going through such a hard time.

Answer 10

See your doctor.

Start an exercise program. Train with free weights. Cardio will release endorphins (feel-good hormones) and training with weights and adding protein to your diet will re-build your wasting muscles and add definition.

Good luck to you!