I keep reading and (hearing from female friends) that most men are not talkative....that is "just the way males are." well, i'm determined to find a talkative, opinionated bf/mate, lol. am I on a path to nowhere with this one? I like conversation, to converse, I'm opinionated but not a b*tch...... I'm in my mid 20s - also, why is it that men aren't supposedly talkative....
2007-08-23 09:32:49 · 20 answers · asked by camillabrightside 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
lol - not a conceited guy! just a talkative one.
2007-08-23 09:42:58 · update #1
The communication styles between men and women differ generally. Women often talk as a social tool, how they feel, what they think of so and so, how their day was. Men talk as a mechanical tool, this happened, we need to do this, where's so and so.
Because of this, men aren't going to talk about how they feel, or their opinions on topics. Instead a man will talk about WHY their opinion is the way it is. For example, if you want a man to talk more, don't ask, "What do you feel about the economy?" Instead ask, "What do you think needs to be done about the economy?" I can guarantee that the average male will have a lot more to say when asked the second question than the first.
This has to do with how men talk to address problems. Conversely, men have a hard time listening to women talk without upsetting them because they try to deal with women in the same way. When a woman says, "Oh, this guy at work is a real jerk . . ." Then the man would say, "Oh, well why don't you get a different job, or move your office?" (Attempting to address the problem, which is why men talk.) Then the woman will say, "Why don't you ever listen to me!!" (Because the woman is not expecting to be interupted by solutions, which she deems as a dismissal of how she feels.)
It's hard for men to adapt to others who use language as a purveyor of emotion in this way. I've finally learned that when a woman talks, they aren't talking about things, but how they feel about things, and they aren't looking for helpful input to address what they are talking about. Now, I just respond with "Mmm hmm" or "that's interesting" or "Really?" or "How do you feel about that?" and am now a "good listener" and "conversationalist". It seems like this is what you are looking for, whereas when a man reads this question, it seems more like you are looking for a debating partner, because that's why men talk about things in an opinionated matter, to reach a solution.
2007-08-23 10:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by supastremph 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
haha probably because us woman are so talkative, it's in our nature... I am sure there is some straight talkative guy out there but most men that i have met that are talkative end up being gay... I think though that if its in your heart to have a b/f mate that will talk your ear off and you can do the same back that you will get him... just be patient..
2007-08-23 09:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by falnangel07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you implying that men are not talkative during sex or just in general?
I have never heard that men are not "talkative". Maybe they are not as chatty as women are, but I mean, men speak and are opinionated. Perhaps you are not finding the right men who are or are looking in the wrong place?
Good luck.
2007-08-23 09:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by valse.romantique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know my gf always ask me why I dont talk a lot and I just say thats just the way I am. But around guys I tend to talk a lot more, maybe its because we have more in common and we are more confident around other guys.
2007-08-23 09:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They run out of steam after a few minutes. They want to fix everything so you'll shut up. If you want a male who will talk find a gay guy.
2007-08-23 09:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love talking to people I feel comfortable with. But I have a very hard time talking to people I don't know - especially women.
2007-08-23 09:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll likely be able to find a guy who is outspoken w/ opinions. I know many!!! But this doesn't mean they are talkative when it comes to emotional things. Good luck!!!!
2007-08-23 09:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like this question.
Men are talkative when it's safe to do so.
So, is it S A F E for a man to express himself around you?
2007-08-23 09:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Question Monster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im Fat And Im Talkative(Oh Yeahhh) Im Gonna Boink U
2007-08-23 13:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are looking for a guy to be with, and eventually marry, which you have to be in love to do. Use this quote:
"Don't search for love. Let love find you."
-Anonymous
Good luck!
Oh, by the way, when you are 60 and haven't met the guy yet, try www.match.com...or get cats.
2007-08-23 09:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋