My best friend since college is dying from cancer-she has fought it for ten years and now I see the writing on the wall. She doesn't talk about prognosis, and I don't really need to know. I guess what I need to know is how to best be her friend in the time we have left. We live in different states-I just want to be whatever she needs me to be at this point. Does anyone have any experience with this kind of this? I am so devastated and I just want to be strong for her.
2007-08-23 09:22:17 · 5 answers · asked by Dalice Nelson 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
as cheesy and simple as it sounds, just be there for her. be the one that she can rant and rave about her fears to. be the person that will be around after she is gone to inform her family about how awesome of a person she was.
the album idea is a great idea. i would talk to her and see if there is any place, or places that she really wants to visit. if she is well enough, you could take her on a special road trip.
i am really sorry about your situation. it is never easy to lose someone you love, especially when you have to wait for it to happen. i hope that you can find some way to express to her your love, but i'm sure she already knows that you care.
2007-08-24 06:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you thought about getting your camera and taking pics throughout the day and having them developed or hire a photographer to take lots of pics and make a nice album for yourself and her family. It can help ease the grieving process when she passes on when you can see how happy she was to be around friends and family. Have you asked her what the one thing is that she would want to do more than anything in life before she dies, sometimes just honoring that last wish can make someone feel good.
I'm really sorry you have to go thru this i know how it feels. I had to watch as my grandfather died of cancer and it was very hard.
2007-08-23 17:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Rent a house near her. If she's well enough, you two might be able to even go on a vacation together.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. It must be horrible. I can't even begin to imagine something like that. :(
2007-08-23 16:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Echo 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
yes, just be there, talk and laugh about good times.
2007-08-23 16:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
enjoy ur time together
2007-08-23 16:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by cheerleader:))) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋