We are divorced but share custody.When my son is with me he will say he misses his dad and want to call him or go over to his house.When my son is at his dad's house he only calls to ask if he can stay later with his dad never to come home early.His dad has the same rules as i and our son gets to spend almost the same amount of time with his dad as he does me.We have been divorced for 6 yrs so this is not new to him.So why does he "miss" his dad so much?
2007-08-23 09:18:06 · 17 answers · asked by deb v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is a boy, he looks up to his father and wants to be like him. I think it is pretty normal.
2007-08-23 09:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Andy's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal, when boys get to that age they really want to be around their dad, and want to be just like them. It's good for him to do a lot of guy stuff with his dad at this point. My son is the same way, right now he wants to do everything I'm doing and go everywhere I go. I'm sure he wants to bond more since you guys are divorced, he probably thinks he needs to spend as much time with his dad as possible. That's just how boys are.
2007-08-23 09:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by roth299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy's are usually momma's boys until they reach about 4-5 years old. then they relate more to dad
about the time they hit puberty they start to rebel and dad becomes the enemy
that's about the time that he's back to being a momma's boy again. but try to stand by his father. it seems like you guys have a healthy approach to raising your son. that's half the battle.
when he's ready to go off to school, he'll just start to appreciate both of you.
2007-08-23 09:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by CGAA72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is a lot of male bonding going on at this age but if he does the same thing at 12 or 13 years it is not normal. Especially if he does not ask about girls. That is cause for concern.
2007-08-23 09:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very happy that your son has a good relationship with his Father. So many young men have never had the privilege of having a loving Father in their life and end up in street gangs or worse.
2007-08-23 09:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only assume it's b/c he's a boy and he probably looks up to his dad. I have a daughter; although quite a bit younger, and I would think that she would look up to me when she is your son's age. I don't think that it is anything against you. Just focus on being the best mom for him and he'll come back to you in his own time. Good luck!
2007-08-23 09:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys are the same way, we have the same sense of humor, we watch the same TV, and Imy rules are a little stricter than the ex wife's.
It's just the way it goes.
What do they do to spend the day as opposed to what you and your son do when he is with you?
I know it bugs you, but I have to give credit to the father who has a good relationship with his son.
2007-08-23 09:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. This is normal. I'm divorced with two sons. My ex and I have joint custody but my boys are with me 95% of the time. I used to feel bad about them always wanting to be with him and seemingly not with me but surprising enough, they grew out of it. They can careless about seeing him now. I think all little boys are fascinated with their fathers. They also relate better because they too are male. It's not that they love us any less. We just look better baking cookies and bandaging bruised knees than playing Playstation and tossing footballs.
2007-08-23 09:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jayda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses his daddy. You are crazy to want to know why that poor child misses his daddy. Daddy was a butt to You, not the child. Leave that boy alone and don't make him hate his daddy just because his daddy don't want you. He and dad are just naturally close, you should encourage that relationship to the fullest. So many dads are deadbeats , u r a lucky one!
2007-08-23 09:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The biggest most important role model in a child's life is their same sex parent.
2007-08-23 09:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Megegie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋