Hubby work "friend" getting married. Let me also say that I consider this guy a work aquantice not a frined. Anyway at work my husband was given a nick name by these so called "friends" Even though they all have a nick name I feel that what they call my husband is dirotory, not nice, childish in additon to being a refelction on me. The name is stinky. Hubby was working on the side doing garbage removal. So any way I really do not want to go to this wedding and sit at a table with these people. I do not find belittleing someone funny nor would I be a part of it regarless of who it was. I think it best for me not to attend and him attend alone as I do not want the focal point to be my response to there coments or me leaving and walking out. My husband told the groom we were going but I would like to call and say only he will be attending. What is the proper thing to do. My husband thinks I am being silly and says I take things to heart that it's only a joke and who cares.
2007-08-23 09:04:21 · 10 answers · asked by Kat G 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Alissa: After I take the stick out of my @ss you can have it and shove it up yours
2007-08-23 09:39:50 · update #1
Frankly, you are being silly. Having a nickname like "Stinky" is no way a reflection on you. It has nothing to do with you, so you have no right to be offended. If your husband doesn't mind, there's no need for you to be offended on his behalf - he recognizes that it's just guys joking around with each other. Sure, the behavior is immature, but it's not mean-spirited, and there are much worse names he could be called.
I think you need to forget about it and let it go; just attend the wedding and try to see these people as friendly.
But if you can't let it go, then you should definitly not attend the wedding - you don't have the right to ruin someone else's special day by storming out in a huff over a little joke that wasn't even directed at you.
2007-08-23 09:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite the nicknames that your husbands co-workers give he is not the really point, the point is that you find these things degrading, however if it does not bother your husband then it should not bother you, It will be up to you whether you want to go to the wedding, however, your husband might want you to go with him as a support, It is kind of like the pride he takes in the marriage by bringing the wife when attending events such as weddings, You should talk to him more about the situation and see if you can come up with a compromise, and if you can not then do not go but it is going to be up to you anyway whether or not you go with him.
2007-08-23 09:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!! I wouldn't want to go to this wedding either!! You didn't say if you also worked with these people too. If you have given them a chance in the past, and they have failed- I'd come up with a mysterious illness day of, or remind your husband of "that thing" you have going on the same day as the wedding... If you can give notice at least then the couple is not paying for your food etc.
If you only hear the stories, and haven't met the people, they may be very light-hearted, fun and loving people who adore your husband, and they may suprise you also.
It depends on your relationship with these people.
2007-08-23 09:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lissie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does your husband come home and complain about being belittled?
Is that the biggest complaint you have about his friends?
I think you ought to suck it up and go, these are his friends, and unless you have a real reason for not liking them, I think you are being unfair for making your husband come up with excuses as to why you're not attending
2007-08-23 09:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with his co-workers, then by all means stay home. You can call and explain that you will not be attending with your husband. Just be sure to let someone know that you won't be there. Your husband will just have to understand.
2007-08-23 09:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same situation. Coworker of mine is getting married this weekend and I don't want to go (though for other reasons). The way your husband can save face with his coworkers who he sees every day is for you to have an out-of-town emergency arise. or me, my girlfriend's nephew happens to be turning 1 this weekend. We had originally planned on tanking the 3-hour trip to her nephew but have since decided to go another weekend that we can spend more time. As far as the coworker is concerned though, we're still heading out to the nephew's 1st b-day party.
2007-08-23 09:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Chris A 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would go and when they tell their dumb jokes have kick *** comebacks so they look like the joke. since your husband wants to go even though they aren't the nicest people to him, you should go too and just forget about them and have a fun time. it can be fun to be bitchy to people who are immature and jerks :)
2007-08-23 09:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lightened up. It sounds like a joke to me. you should get the stick out of your @ss
2007-08-23 09:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you haven't noticed that men are often childish, you're a very lucky woman. i would just suck it up and go....whats the worst that could happen? free cake and booze, go for it!
2007-08-23 09:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by advice?yeah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your husband wants to go, go with him just to make him happy. It's not worth arguing over.
I know how you feel girl, my boyfriend has stupid friends too.
2007-08-23 09:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋