do you think it is wrong to pierce your daughter's ears when she is an infant?

Question

my mother in law said she thought it would be better to allow the child to make such a decision on their own. i had my ears pierced when i was an infant & think it is ok to do it @ 4mos of age. i feel differently about boys though.

Answer 1

I pierced both of my daughters ears when they were 3mo. and 6 weeks. I think this is better because they don't know that the earrings are there and therefore don't play with them. If they don't want them when they get older, they can let the holes close up.

Answer 2

I think it's a decisions best left to an older child that has some reasoning skills. Anything that will alter or change the body's appearance should not be made by the parents unless done for health or religious reasons. As to piercing her ear, why? She should be allowed to understand that it's a permanent mark in the skin - it always shows a dimple where it happened and she doesn't understand, either the pain, nor the future maintenance it'll require.

My daughter waited until she was twelve when she got her ears pierced. She had never regretted this decision - but, it was HER decision.

Answer 3

It's up to you, really. You shouldn't care about what your MIL or any of us have to say about it. Is not that you're gonna get her a nose job, please.

When I was born, I had my ears pierced in the hospital by a nurse, when I was just 1 day old, it was customary in Spain!! Although that was too early, I don't think that a part of my childhood has been taken away from me...

I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was two months old, she didn't cry at all and taking care of it was a breeze.

I guess it is a cultural thing, most baby girls here have little baby earrings, actually, I got 5 pairs as presents from family and friends.

Again, if you want to pierce her ears do it, if you don't want to, don't do it then.

Answer 4

Its not incorrect to get an babies ears pierced at any age finding on the mothers and dads decision approximately it. In africa the place i come from, whilst a new child is born- a woman, their ears are pierced one or 2 days after , in the event that they're boys , circumsiccion occurs a million or 2 days have confidence they're being discharged from medical institution. the lady new child is pierced and positioned a gold ear ring on the two ears , grew to become with the pointy pin dealing with in front as a manner to advoid piercing and hurting of the back of the ear. yet as quickly as I got here to europe i got here upon that fogeys stay their babies to mature and are available to a decision the place or no be counted if or not they could desire to pierce their ears and almost no circumssicion for the boy new child without signed rfile-. . so it soley relies upon on the call of the two mothers and dads.

Answer 5

I pierced my first daughters ears do the the peer pressure of her grandmother. She said it would be better because then people would know she was a baby girl. So we went together to the mall to get her ears pierced. She was about 1 yr. The sound of the gun and the sting in her ears scared her so much. She cried the whole day and literally gave me a look of " I trusted you". Then she had trouble sleeping cuz the earings hurt her and they got caught in all her baby blankets. And then she started pulling them out of her ears herself. What was I supposed to do buy more earings and put her through garbage. NO. She's seven now. You can't see where the holes once were and she loves saying mom all the other girls have their ears pierced and I don't, that makes me cooler than them. And I said yep honey cuz you'll decided when and if you want earrings which is very grown up!

Answer 6

I think they should be able to pierce their ears when they can make the choice. I wasn't allowed to get mine pierced until I was 13 or 14 and I think that I appreciate it more now because I had to wait to get something that I wanted. Plus it's a baby, do you really want to introduce them into the world of vanity at that age? Babies are cute the way they are and don't need a earring to make them look good. It's just silly and selfish of the parent to want to dress their child up like that.

Answer 7

I think it's fine. Ultimately, it's the parent's decision. I chose not to because I can't stand the sound of my daughter crying like that. That, and now she pulls on her ears all the time (and there's nothing wrong with them, I asked the doctor). I know now she would definitely just rip it out. I get upset when people tell me that I should do it, so I can understand how you fell when people say you shouldn't. But, like I said, in the end it is your decision and your decision only!

Answer 8

I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old. I think it was a good decision to make because I was able to clean them and take care of them. If she decides later on in life that she doesn't want them then she can just take them out.

Answer 9

I had so many problems when I got my ears pierced (in high school) that I always wished mine were done as a baby. Now, I have two girls. If it were up to me, they would have both had their ears pierced when they were babies, but my husband has put his foot down about them making the choice on thier own. Our compromise has been that when they do choose to get them pierced that were going to have a big dorky party to celebrate. (He doesn't know it yet, but he may just be the leader of our princess party!)

Answer 10

It is a personal choice.
She is YOUR daughter and really as long as you take care of her ears and do not let her wear dangle ear rings that could tear her ear lobe then go ahead and do it.
I personally chose to let my girls tell me when they wanted their ears pierced. Only because I was such a wimp on hurting them in any way as babies. I preferred to let them cause that sort of pain of their own free will, and really it does not hurt the baby's very badly, but I cried harder than all my kids even when they got shots.