When did you, will you, have "The Talk"?

Question

Ok, so my son is 10 years old. I feel he is very mature for his age, we have a very open relationship, and being a teen mother myself, I am really worried about him being educated in this department. We had the talk a couple months ago....we talked about it ALL. STD's, Love, BC, our beliefs, medical terms for all anatomy and so on. We had a great talk and he asked tons of great questions. I was really happy with that.
I told some of my co-workers about it and a lot of them act suprised to hear that I had "the talk" with him at such a young age.

I was 13 when I first had intercorse...and I had only had the little videos that you watched in school as my "sex ed". I just want him to be prepaired and be responsible. My question is when, when did you, or when do you think it is a good age to have the talk? Is 10 too early?

Answer 1

I honestly don't think 10 is too young, especially with children these days. I am 18 years old, and I lost my virginity at 15. But, I started hearing about sex and learning about sex in the 6th grade (I was 11.) So, I think that if you felt like it was the time, then that's wonderful for you. You are just practicing good parenting skills. Some parents think that is too young, but I will tell you this- they will be the parents with children who get pregnant in thier teens. I wish you both the best!

Answer 2

well since i was little the fasination of where babies came from always was in my mind. At the age of 5 i wanted to know so i asked my mom, which i then got the response " I'll tell you when your older." When I was 7 i had some friends that were 11 and 12 years old which I asked what it was and they explained it as " sex." which at 7 i didnt noe what it meant so they explained it to me. of course it didnt really sink in so i dropped it for a while. and then at 9 i said that i heard all this stuff and asked her a little more about it but this time in a question and answer form. like instead of her just telling me everything, she only told me things i already kinda knew but was confused about. Now im 11 and most of the stuff i know i learned from my friends or TV

but honestly i dont think their is one age.When your kids ask you about it you should just tell them or else they r going to go to their friends like i did and just get messed up and confused. And now you also have to realize kids dont act their age. 10 is the new 13 and kids learn things faster. Now a days people r having sex at 13 so the sooner the better

Answer 3

Well, the only "talk" my sister and I got were the ones about periods.
(I think she got another one later about guys and hormones when she was 14, but I'm 13 now so that one may be coming to me, although I already know so much about that stuff.)
Our family also had a few books about puberty and a little about sex that I read, like the ones called "What's happening to me?", but the most informative book was one that my sister received at school in 6th grade.
(I was in 6th grade when she handed it down to me, but never got my own at school because 6th grade was the year that I began homeschooling.)
The book was called Almost 12, with the subtitle: The Story of Sex.
I still have the book, actually. It was pretty informative and I enjoyed reading it; I was about 11 going on 12 at the time.

- and no, I don't think 10 is too early for that talk, it's prefectly fine.

Answer 4

We haven't had "the" talk, we've had a series of talks based on when the kids have asked. I started when the kids were little bitty by telling them the REAL names for their private parts. It's a penis, not a winky, not a wooby, it's a penis. I did that because if anyone ever touched/touches them there, I want them to be able to tell authorities what happened in a way that leaves no room for doubt when we take that person to court.
The next thing was, when they asked about my periods.They saw bloody stuff in the trash, and my boxes of pads and tampoons, and asked, so I told them the truth. That I bleed every month because I'm not pregnant. That my body releases an egg, and if it doesn't get made into the beginnings of a baby, then my body flushes it out. That it's okay, and no, it doesn't hurt. ANd yes it's normal, that most women do this for years and years of their lives. My son then announced he was glad he was a boy. LOL
We have talked to our son about how babies are formed, in detail. He's 9. our daughter who is 6, hasn't really asked much, but when she does, I'll tell her the truth. I think the big thing is to tell them what they ask, and not overwhelm them with more info than they are ready for.
But for us, it's a series of little talks, whenever it comes up, not one big talk.

Answer 5

I have heard to start talking about it at 8..just the basics then and give them what you think they are ready for. Best they learn it from you then how you (and I did). I was 13 when I started having sex too and neither of my parents had talked to me about it. When my daughter was 6 we had to read her the childrens book on how baby's are conceived because we were pregnant again and she asked. So no I don't think 10 is too early at all but I don't think you have to go into detail just the basics and responsibility issues on it.

Answer 6

My husband and I agreed that when our son turned 10 (Unless he asks sooner) that we will start with the basics. I want to make sure that he knows about condoms and other forms of birth control, STDs, having respect for women, etc. I told my husband that if our son ever got a girl pregnant that he WOULD have to get a job and support the baby.

Answer 7

I don't think it should be a one time talk. To be able to instill your values you should talk more than once. You don't look at the ABC's and know all about reading; the same holds true here. I think it's important to talk honestly and often. I want my son to know what our values are and to know how to deal with it all. I've talked to my son many times and often. He's nine. I don't think there is one age to talk. I think for girls it's very important to talk BEFORE they start their periods. I don't understand why people wait until after. They need to know that it's going to happen and why.
I would just follow your gut. You know what's better for your child than anyone else.

Answer 8

My children knew about all of that at age 8 from some wonderful friends. By age 10 they knew everything.

Answer 9

I was 9 and asked my mom what sex was, we then had the talk. My son is 9 but not quite ready for the talk. It really depends on the child's maturity.

Answer 10

i was about 13 when i got the talk ... because thats when i first got my period

if he didn't hear it from you ... he would have heard a twisted version from friends!

i think around 9 or 10 is a perfect age!!!