well i don't have a girlfriend but there is a girl i really like and we talk like all the time. i like everything about her but the fact that she is bisexual. i know most of my friends and maybe other guys would say "why would i not like to have a bisexual girl, it means you can have 3somes and more" but i really don't care for all that. i mean its all cool to know that we have things in common but to know that we both like girls is kind of disturbing but i don't want to change that about her because that's who she is. i mean how do i cope with having a bisexual girlfriend without being disturb by the fact that she talks about how sexy other girls look with me. i mean i want to turn her bisexuality into a good thing but at the same time still respect her as a person and treat her as if she was a straight girlfriend too, :?
2007-08-23 05:51:01 · 15 answers · asked by gslimjim98 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
okay and for the record i said my friends be saying do the 3some thing and stuff like that but i'm not trying to because really i dont care for it. i'm saying because she is bi that i am guaranteed sexual encounters like that. and also i did kind of mess up when i said treat like a str8 person. i like who she is and i want her to keep being her because then it wouldnt be her.
2007-08-23 06:19:38 · update #1
I dated a bisexual girl for a short time...
And it was pretty great.
She just wasn't what I was looking for in a longtime relationship.
Though it had nothing to do with her bisexuality... that was a bonus. Quite a fun one in a couple of cases.
2007-08-23 06:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, just because she is bisexual does not mean that it will affect your relationship with her unless you want it too. It also doesn't mean she will be willing to have a 3some with you unless she has told she would. Its a part of who she is. You need to accept that. You sound like you really care for her and I think that is great. Get past your fear or you may lose her. If it bothers you that she talks about how sexy girls are when with you let her know. She will most likely be respectful and not do those things around you. Bisexuals are perfectly capable of having a committed relationship if thats what you are worried about. In short if you care about her - and it sounds like you do- talk to her let her know what your reservations are. She will understand. Good luck!
2007-08-23 06:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by ajdb090706 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm bisexual but instead of lecturing you to understand, i do get why you are concerned. if you have been together not that long then i suggest that you get to know her more and soon the you will accept it. if you can't on the other hand maybe it's time to call it a day and date a straight girl because bi girls might not (sounds as though the aren't) your 'thing'. if you have been together for quite a while and love her a lot then the relationship is worth fighting for. good luck and hope you make the right choice for you x
2007-08-23 06:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is bisexual which means that she is attracted to males and females, but that does not mean that she would want to have a threesome, or that she could not be happy in a hetero relationship or that she is a is on the prowl for a female.
You want to treat her as a straight girlfriend, but that is not her is it? You want to accept her for who and what she is, except you can't really handle that she is bi. You find it "disturbing".
Do yourself and her a huge favour and walk away from this right now. She is what she is and frankly you are way too conflicted to handle that. You will end up making both of you very unhappy and probably destroy a large portion of her self-esteem if you continue in this way.
2007-08-23 06:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I mean there isn't really anything you can do about it...She is who she is. If you can't accept her or you don't like her talking about other women in a sexual way then it's probably not best for you to get into a relationship with her...It will only cause problems in the end.
2007-08-23 06:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't accept ALL of her, she's not the right person for you. Why would you want to treat her as "a str8 girlfriend"? What does that even mean?
Like/love her for who she is, or move on.
2007-08-23 05:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find a girl who is straight, totally. Your 'disturbing' feeling may get in the way and cause trust issues.
2007-08-23 05:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by phxguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, so, you don't have a relationship as yet other than friendship, right? I suggest you tell her that you like her in that way and mention that it makes you uncomfortable to hear her talk about other girls. It sounds to me that she thinks of as a "buddy" and buddies talk about lots of things. Making a move toward a BF-GF relationship you might just loose the friend....
Good luck.
2007-08-23 06:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude that's how she is and you cant change it or try to change it, shes attracted to girls and if you really like her then your going to have to let that go, also if your worried about losing her to a girl then the chances of losing her to one is no higher if not lower than losing her to a guy due to lack of bisexual girls (or where i live anyway).
2007-08-23 15:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you really like her, but being bisexual is who she is. And if your not comfortable with that then I'm afraid its just not going to ever work out. And I don't think you should compromise yourself for anyone else either. You should remain friends with her and set your sights on someone more compatible to yourself! Good luck :-D
2007-08-23 06:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by aliali 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋