Is everyone bisexual?

Question

What would you be if no one had taught you what to be?

Well, I'm not a stupid young college girl, I'm a college graduate. So that explanation's out, at least for me personally.

Answer 1

I know I am.

Answer 2

I like how you worded this question. It is thought provoking. It boils down the simple nature vs. nurture question. Are people pre-programed to be straight/gay/bi, or is it a learned behavior? There is a lot of argument about whether or not it is genetic. While some researchers believe they found a gene that may make one more predisposed towards homosexuality (and I would presume bisexuality, although I don't know if that was part of the study), the evidence is far from conclusive. We don't really see certain families that have a high rate of non-straight individuals, which seems to make the genetic argument less likely, at least as a primary cause.

This leads us to believe that it is mostly a "learned" behavior, not that this means that someone taught them to be bi/gay, but that most gay or bisexuals have had something(s) that has happened in their life that has caused them to become more attracted to people of the same sex. This raises the question of whether or not we all could be or could have been gay or bisexual if we had been raised in different circumstances.

Interestingly enough, I know of a doctor who believes he may have found a "cause" for homosexuality (not THE cause, but A cause). He has become aware of a condition that is called vanishing twin syndrome. It seems that 1 in 6 of all pregnancies start off as twins, but one of the twins doesn't survive (twin births only occur in about 1 of every 80 births). He believes that a large majority of those who have homosexual tendencies lost a twin of the same sex in the womb. I don't know if this is true, but it certainly would explain why so many gay/bisexual individuals feel that they were "born this way."

Perhaps any of us could be or could have been gay or bisexual if given the right circumstances. However, I personally believe that there are many individuals that would not be, no matter what the circumstances. There is still so much about human sexuality that we don't understand. My personal thought, however, is that gay and homosexual behavior is both genetic and learned. I believe that given different circumstances a much larger part of the population would find themselves attracted to those of the same sex, but not all.

Whether you believe that we were created by God, or whether you believe we evolved, we were "designed" to have sex for the purpose of procreation. I believe that there is something in us that PRIMARILY makes us seek out individuals of the opposite sex. I don't think there is something in us that makes us primarily seek out someone of the same sex. While the fact that we get so much enjoyment out of sex and companionship means that we shouldn't be really surprised that some people find these pleasures with people of the same sex, the fact that sex is the way we reproduce means we should be surprised if we found that everyone could find pleasure in this way.

Thanks for the thoughtful question!

Answer 3

Good question. It is evident that early experiences can develop into fetishes or near fetishes i.e. an attraction to toe cleavage, shoes, hosiery etc. These are often reinforced by existing traits, i.e. people that are sensitive to textures may be attracted to certain materials in a sexual context than others.

It is certainly reasonable to assume the sexual preference may also affected by experience, espcially if the person has a genetic disposition for same sex attraction. So a person could develop a tolerance or a taste for being bi. In many cultures being bi doesn't carry the same stigma as it does in America and experimentation is matter of course.

On the other hand, while many "attractions" or fetishes can be successfully modified or eliminated, often same sex preferences can not.

Answer 4

I had a friend who used to say, "Everyone is gay. It's just HOW gay." I always found that statement amusing - but I never really felt it was true.

I don't think anybody "taught" me my sexuality - even though society does push heterosexuality at us. Sure - there were dolls (I always hated baby dolls - they creeped me out) given to me - and I was put in a dress (and liked it). And all of the story books displayed hetero relationships. BUT - I never had an urge to be sexual with a woman. I even forced myself to try it once - and was - well - it was just odd. There was no guilt - or fear of unacceptance by my family and friends - It didn't feel right. Much like hetero sex probably doesn't feel right for some gay people. So - anyway - I never did it again.

I'm straight. I'm sure of it. So in answer to your question - NO - everyone is not bisexual. I ruin your absolute of "everyone"

Answer 5

I was raised with liberal parents that did not repress my sexuality and encouraged me to follow my heart.

I have dated people of both genders.

Though I find that many women are gifted, interesting, and inspiring I can't, in most cases, date them. I don't regret dating women but I find myself attracted to men generally (usually I don't even find myself attracted to anyone. But when the rare attraction happens, it's generally a guy that I become interested in.)

I know that some women prefer women and some men prefer men. Some prefer both. But I'm not sure if everyone is bi. Many liberal guys that I know say that they don't like the idea of being with a guy sexually no matter how good looking or interesting he may be.

Answer 6

Well...erm...
All dudes have had one fantasy at one time in their lives.
I think same goes for women. BUT that does not make you BI, just curious :)
There is nothing wrong with it, really, but I do not think we are all Bisexual, I think it's something you are born with.
I am only attracted to girls, I have never been attracted to a dude. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

Answer 7

I'm not bi. I like males... I don't think anyone taught me to like guys, i just do

Answer 8

No, I think it is a fad with stupid young college girls.

Answer 9

Hell no not everyone is "bi".
Personally I don't understand what people get out of being that way either. GROSS.

Answer 10

I agree with Kari...Bravo!

Answer 11

no...I was born and i'm a man, as far as I'm concern, and checked last time :)