I was suppose to go to Minnesota for college, but for him i transfered to the college that he is planning on going to. The college that he is planning on going to doesn't have any dorm left, so him and I were going to get a place togethere. After a while he decided to tell me that he MIGHT have a kid with his ex. As any 19 year old would do, I freaked out. I turned off my cell for couple of hours. After I turned it back on, I tried calling him and text him but he kept ignoring me. Before the DNA test, the whole time he was hoping and wishing that the baby is his knowing that he is going to loose me. The DNA test finally came out a week later and the kid is his. For the past month, i've been trying to talk to him, i told him that i would treat the kid like my own. I would help him with everything. But he just keep ignoring me. His friend been telling me that he been out with other girls, but when I comfirm him about it he said he haven't. IDK what to do, who to trust.
2007-08-23 05:00:25 · 16 answers · asked by a1243232 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't sell yourself short sweetheart. You are young and have the ability to find a man who is willing to be honest with you in every aspect of your relationship. The thing about dating people with children is that you can be supportive and love the kids as if they were your own but it is hard to let that go in the event things don't work out between the two of you. If your relationship were more solid I would encourage you to go for it. but if he is not communicating with you the way someone who loves you and wants to be with you should, cut your losses and move forward. Though it may initially be hard to do, you will find it easier each day. Focus on your education and what you want out of life. You will find someone who is right for you and they won't expect you to deal with BS. Good luck to you.
2007-08-23 05:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by MeMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can he have a baby with his ex if u too were in a relationship if he wont sit down and talk to u about it he aint worth the trouble honey let him do what ever he wants and at 19 you should be enjoying life not running after some man and his baby to some other girl get up let go and move on be strong girl u will be better off with out a man like that if he is meant to be seeing other women
2007-08-23 12:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you're 19. You may or may not love the guy. But as a guy and an older one too I think you're crazy if you don't get as far away from him as possible. Go back to the college you were going to go to cuz he don't care about you. All he wanted was a kid it sounds like. Doesn't matter with who.This is one to forget. He doesn't care.
2007-08-29 15:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Fla Gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not move in with him. Go to the same college if you choose but you can still "date" and feel it out. It's easy to say you'll be good to his child now before you are in the situation. I say live separately and spend time with him and his baby before you commit to anything. It may and will probably certainly be alot harder than you realize. Small steps are usually a better choice. What ever you do, continue your education! Don't take a haitus thinking you'll go back, odds are you wont. Your 19, enjoy your youth and freedom of choices before you tie yourself down with an unknown situation! GOOD LUCK! (Personlly I think he sounds like a loser, you sound like you are better than what he can"give" you.....)
2007-08-23 12:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Poptart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not to late for you to transfer to Minnesota College. do it. You need to let him go. It's clear that he is not thinking about you, just him self. His baby is his responsibility not yours. Go to your college and find someone that wants to be with you. It's not right what he is doing after what you did for him. Just because he had a baby does not mean he can treat you like this
2007-08-23 12:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Susan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't every trust him. He's a liar and a cheat. You don't need him. What a loser. Don't over talk to him again, and try to go on some dates yourself. He has too much baggage and if he ignores you then he doesn't want to be with you. Find someone who will appreciate the love and trust you give them.
2007-08-23 12:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has been ignoring you for the past month - what do you think? Is that someone who you want to be in a relationship with? You're too young to be stuck with someone that has 18 years of child support payments ahead of him.
2007-08-30 22:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trusting the EVIDENCE that is right in front of your face!!!! LET'S SEE.... he wanted the kid to be his, then ignores you when he finds it is - pretty dang OBVIOUS where and with WHO his priorities NOW are - - it should not matter what anyone SAYS he is doing - - he is NOT doing it with YOU, so it is time to shove this guy out the door and send him on his way. CLEARLY he is no longer interested in you.
2007-08-23 12:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you going crazy over somebody with a kid. Move ont o somebody who has no issues. If he is ignoring you then guess what.....he doesn'\t want to hear from you. Start college and enjoy your college life with no drama.
2007-08-23 12:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r too young to live with guy. In America people think it is normal. But it is not. Only after marriage. Ecpesialy in your case. If he dont marry you , then you willl be next one who have kids with no husband. Dont be white trash.
2007-08-23 12:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋