How could i find peace of mind? I always worry about things, think of the past and present etc.?

Question

I get angry because he or she did or does this or that, he or she said that or this. I am fed up. My mind always thinks of negative things. I feel so tired. Everything becomes a problem for me, when it comes to me!

Answer 1

You've given your own 'right answer' ... you say you get angry because SOMEONE ELSE did or does this or that or says this or that. You can NOT change what other people do, so you MUST change how you respond to them ... but in order to do so, you must take a 'good hard look' at yourself, and see 'why' you are so 'angry' with other people. Are you 'giving them too much power' in your life? How can you 'change that' so that YOU have the power? What can you DO with your own life to change your responses?
Start with 'meditation' ... sit cross legged or in a straight chair with both knees and feet together and flat on the floor, put your hands on your knees with your palms up, and 'breathe deeply' ... in to the count of ten, out to the count of fifteen ... at least twenty times (yes, you may 'count' in your head ... that will actually help you to 'focus' your meditation) and then think of 'happy times' and places ... but make sure they are 'gentle' places, like a 'flowery meadow in the middle of a deep woods' ... the 'meadow' is YOU and the 'deep woods' is the 'protection you are putting around yourslef.' Keep this in your mind for as long as you can ... up to an hour eventually, but even just a second or two is 'enough' to get you started. Then think about what that 'person' you are 'angry' with again and you'll be able to 'see' that what they did or said doesn't really 'affect you' ... you may see them as being 'powerless' or 'silly' or even 'stupid' ... and do this meditation at least five times a day (at two seconds) until you can 'extend' the visualization to half an hour ... and you'll soon see that with this 'visualization' in your memory you aren't as 'angry' with the people in your life any more ...

Answer 2

Samantha – funny you pose this question, because I have the personality to be exactly as you described… there is a lot of suffering in my life right now and I should be a complete wreck, but I decided to LET GO. Because I have found that there will ALWAYS be SOMETHING to stress/worry/be angry about. This world is imperfect (okay REALLY imperfect) but I promise good things are out there.

“Letting go” is very cliché – it may seem like silly words right now, but until you put your foot down and decide that you are not going to stress and anger run your thoughts, it will be just that… words. Please excuse the lengthy answer to this question, but it is only this week that I have decided to focus on the positive and I just want to tell the world how GREAT it feels to be liberated from your stress and suffering!

I have been reading into Buddhism for a couple years now, and I am giving credit to the wonderful Thich Nhat Hanh's teachings for my peace of mind. No – I am not perfect by any means and I am always going to be a high-strung person, but I am learning every day to be a high-strung person that has found peace of mind. It isn’t a light bulb, it takes time to change how you react to things, but you can. I have attached a link to a page telling about Thich. Also I have attached a link of the many books he has written. They are simply a joy to read, he explains things so that they make perfect sense.

Just being perfectly honest and not trying to tell you what to do – hope this helps

http://www.parallax.org/cgi-bin/shopper.cgi?search=action&category=BOOK&keywords=hanh

http://www.seaox.com/thich.html

you know - somehow writing this down and sharing my epiphany with you has made me feel happy - funny creatures aren’t we!

sorry to keep editing - by the psychologist above has the right idea - but the same with "letting go" goes for meditation, they are just words and hard to give meaning to, unless you have reason and faith that they will work (kinda like show me the money)hehe
Meditation is an art – true meditation is MINDLESSNESS or thinking NOTHING - But your habit thought are soooo hard to stop, that sitting down and with your palms down - or whatever - is basically meaningless and frustrating unless you
1) Know how
2) Make it work for you
3) Practice
you don’t have to sit down and make it a "thing" like a workout or something, you can practice meditation walking / meditation breathing and ect. I would suggest picking up a book and learning about mediation, because it is different for everyone.

Answer 3

This is all mind set. I think you know that already. Did you loose one of your parents ? Or somthing tramatic happen in your life? If so there is the cause. Our society trains us to focus on the negative, most people do. I found reading self help, positive books helped alot. I dated a girl who refused to watch negative things on the tv or read negative books or be around negative people. This is a good practice but the change has to be within or it will always surface. Dwayn dire I think thats how you spell his name, Dan millman way of the peaceful warrior, Nepolean hill. These are all good authors.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Its called Prozac.