Anyone have any ideas to get hubby more interested in helping with the baby? We have a 7 mo old that he ADORES, however it seems to be my responsibility to take care of her. We BOTH work full-time, we don't have the funds to hire a maid or quit our jobs. But he will get home, say he's tired and retreats to the tv all night to leave me to change, feed, bathe, etc the baby. If I ask him to watch her he will but he leaves her in dirty diapers (he didn't notice). Also she's eating solids and if she gets hungry while he's watching her he just hands her a bottle so he can finish his video games. He does a few cleaning things around the house when I don't have time but then he jumps on me about how I don't help out with cleaning enough. His parents where nothing like this, honestly his dad did more around the house than his mom. So I don't know where he's getting this example. Please help! I'm so tired and getting very resentful.
2007-08-23 03:16:14 · 8 answers · asked by brigirl_00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to demonstrate the things that he needs to do such as diaper changing and baby feeding and then tell him that you expect him to participate in the process as you need some time off as well. If all else fails hide the remote on the TV until he cooperates.
2007-08-23 04:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him how your feeling. A marriage depends on good communication. Let him know your tired also and you understand this. You guys need to make a plan on how you can work together to keep the house clean and care for the baby. Or he needs to understand that you can't do it all and he's going to have to either get used to a dirty house sometimes or take the initiative to help.
2007-08-23 10:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you could first except that he just wasn't ready for the responsibility of a new baby.... sometimes we think we are ready for something then when it happens it isn't like we envisioned. so... i would maybe start there and say... wow... having a baby has really added to my work load and yours too!! then maybe try this... i say i need to get _____ done this week... what day would work out best with you? then that way it is in his court and he can decide for himself which day he will take over some responsibilities... you will have to start in baby steps. it seems he has ideals that the women are supposed to be the ones to care for the baby....
2007-08-23 10:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he ? 17 ? Us guys like our down-time after work, but responsibility is responsibility. He had no problem "making" the baby, so it is time for him to take care of the baby. Give him set chores to do, I have them, he needs to get off his butt & help. If you go on strike, you will be portrayed as the bad person,,try counceling,,
2007-08-23 10:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the TV and video games. You need to stand up to this guy and let him know she is his daughter too. If he can't pull his weight then give his precious toys to needy children. This is ridiculous.
2007-08-23 10:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You gave birth to the kid, you take care of it.
2007-08-23 10:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is SIMPLE. Men need lists. Not verbal.
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2007-08-24 09:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by nathra s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋