I am in the process of losing my home and I am afraid my family will not forgive me. They don't know about me losing my home and I am afraid to tell them because I know I will lose them. I walk around all the time with chest pains and so scared. My husband is away at work all the time. He works on boats so he is gone for a month at a time, and I know when he finds out he will probably want to leave me. It has been a hard couple of years, (several family members passing away and things just out of control). I have two small children and if it wasn't for them I would want to end it all, however sometimes I think they might be better off without me. I feel like I have no one to talk to and at this point am afraid to tell people what is going on. I know I sound like a coward, but I am so scared. My insides shake all the time. Just needed to write this to help get a little anxiety out. Thanks for listening!!!
2007-08-23 03:15:15 · 12 answers · asked by moname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Someone gave me this....FEAR....False Evidence Appearing Real....... Face this thing....some will understand some won't but reality it coming fast whether you like it or not.....People have the capacity to forgive...just be willing to accept responsibliity and face things....Sometimes I forget myself....there is always someone to talk to and His name is JESUS
2007-08-30 12:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered talking to a credit counsellor to seek advice on how to reduce living costs or reduce your other financial obligations? Family is always there no matter what the situation is, perhaps they might be able to help you out in your situation. It sounds like you are experiencing anxiety attacks because you are bottling your emotions inside and that's not good for you either, it only brings on illness and breakdowns (take it from someone that knows!). As for your husband, you should talk with him ASAP at the earliest moment and explain to him what's happening....Ending it all is much too easy for us and makes us cowards and also your not setting a good example for the little ones (I'm sure you wouldn't want them doing the same thing either) fighting back is what drives us to the biggest challenges in life, and you sound like a person that is willing to do anything to make your situation better, please also consider seeking medical help to go for a physical check up...
2007-08-30 16:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by lucie73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a walking time bomb. You know whats going to happen is that when you least expect it you are going to have a nervous breakdown. Those pains in your chest is all the stress building up because you are keeping it all to yourself. When your body isnt going to be able to take anymore it is going to shut down. Do you really believe that your family isnt going to forgive you? You need to tell someone. Why doesnt your husband know about the house? Sweetie, you have to let him know whats going on. If you are losing your house, you need to tell him, especially if he has no idea whats going on. I know it must be really scarey for you thinking that you have nobody. Isnt there just one person in your family that you can talk to. Why are you so afraid of telling them? You would be surprised how people will actually come through for you. Dont wait to long. The last thing you need is to end up in a hospital. The truth has to come out eventually. It wont go away if you pretend its not there.
2007-08-23 05:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you losing your home? How does your husband have absolutely no idea? Family is family and they are supposed to love you and support you no matter what and perhaps it would be to your benefit to let the people that you know and care about in on what is going on because perhaps, they may be able to offer some advice or support to get you out of your apparent bad situation. If anything, I think everyone is going to be more upset with you for keeping it from them and if you are freaking out over this that much to the point where you are having chest pains, anxiety, and thoughts of suicide, you need to talk to someone and you need to talk to someone now. Just keeping it all in and saying nothing is not going to hide the problem nor solve it and you need to be honest not just for your own benefit but for everyone else's especially your husband and children. I wish you nothing but the best of luck and I hope that everything works out for you but please find the strength to be honest to everyone because not only are they entitled to that but it will be for your own benefit despite what you think. Take care : )
2007-08-23 03:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have your priorities in the wrong place. You tell your husband right away he needs to know. If he gets mad then let him, tell him child support is a reality. Stop letting people push you around. If someone is unhappy then let them butt out. Talk to the loan company and see what can be done. But stop doing it all your self. Take care of those kids and fight back. If you did something wrong then admit it and move on. Remember you can use the love for your children as a source of strength and do incredible things. I know cause I did it. Pray for strength too and then speak up.
2007-08-31 03:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there i use to try and keep things from my husband too so i turned to drinking up to 12 beers a day, till it landed me in the hospital they didnt think that i would live but with gods hand and strenghth here i am today to tell you this while i was in there my husband found out how far behind in our bills we really was we talked it out and we both relize that living life and not worrying so much and our family was what was inportant has long as we are together you can make a home anywhere as long as you have your family and the faith in god that it will work out so please talk to your husband if he is somewhere you cant talk to him then talk to your parents you will feel so much pressure lifted off you its an amazing feeling than you and your loved ones can figure out the next step and if your husband does leave you than he doesnt love you as much as you think the vows say good or bad times if loves you he will find away to stay a family just talk be honest before you get in the shape i was in and at deaths door i relize that my life was worth fighting for and for my family.
2007-08-30 16:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you losing your home are you not paying the bills? I would think your husband would be sending you money to pay bills and support yourself and the children. What did you do with the money? Go to your family and ask for help they won't be mad just wondering where your money went. good luck.
2007-08-30 09:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Calico L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER too late!!!! Open up to your family now please! Believe me they will try and do whatever they can for you. And why are your caring on all of the responsibility??? Don't let time pass away YOU WILL REGRET IT!!! Look at what you will do to you and your family. It's a hard time now it won't last it happens to all of us at one point. If you don't reach out for help no one can help you. Put your pride aside on this one...
2007-08-23 03:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your losing your home from not making the payments, or a gambling problem, or anything else... fess up, get help. Believe me, it will get harder before it gets better.
You have a husband, children, who depend on you. It also sounds like your health is in jeopardy. Fess up, get help.
2007-08-27 04:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by hugskisses4707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you could tell us why you are "losing your home" we may be able to provide some concrete advice.
And don't underestimate your family; they may very well be able to help you if you give them a chance.
2007-08-23 04:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋