I talked my boyfriend into going to court, and getting partial custody of his daughter. He hasn't seen her in three years, and paying child support. He listened to me, and now he's been going to court for it for about five months.
Even if I don't think its right for me to get involved (which I do), I realized he hasn't asked me to go to court with him for support, once.
I'm not upset over it or anything, but now i'm wondering, why
2007-08-23 03:01:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My SO and I have six children between us. Three are mine, three are hers. We both have had to do the family court thing over the years. I don't go to hers and she doesn't go to mine. In fact my Ex comes never brings anyone with her. My SO's Ex doesn't bring his GF because they don't allow Televisions in court...lol...
We both support each other, but, I feel that when I'm in court, it's between my Ex and I. I almost feel that it would be in poor taste to bring someone along. If nothing else it would just be a distraction.
In reality, Family Court is a private matter. I'm pretty sure that even if you went, they wouldn't let you in.
2007-08-23 03:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by tg315 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there's a difference between taking your wife with you than your girlfriend. No offense, but girlfriends don't always show the stablest of relationships. And my reason for that is, if you were married it would show he holds a stable relationship which is good for the child, but because your a girlfriend it may cause questions from the child's mother, like when is he gonna have time for his child when he has a girlfriend he spends all his time with? I'm just throwing out, stuff that she may say if she doesn't want him to have custody. You could hurt at court more than you could help. My advice is support him at home like you have been and let him take the rest in his own hands.
2007-08-23 03:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by TootsieGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I do know that my hubby came to court with me every time while I was fighting for custody of my oldest. I didn't have to ask he was coming anyway (and this started before we were married). One of the reasons the judge changed custody was because of my hubby's support in the matter.
2007-08-23 03:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because those are issues between the mother of his child and him, and your being in court with him for "emotional support" is both unnecessary and inappropriate.
Why would you even want to go?
2007-08-23 03:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by biiiiaaach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he would like you to go to court with him. He is probably thinking he doesn't want to get you involved. But, if you ask he might think it would be nice to have you there. You have to help men think sometimes. But, if he says no, then just ask him why.
2007-08-23 03:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tanisha M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your boyfriend's personal business, and there is no reason he needs someone to hold his hand in court.
it's his daughter, not yours... just be supportive and let him do his thing.
believe me when i say -- it's nice to have a man who is independent and does things on his own... i already raised my kids and personally, i don't want a man who acts like a needy, little kid. your guy is apparently one of the only REAL MEN left on the planet....
someday you might see what i mean.
2007-08-23 03:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your support has been perfect. He will need to feel that his own responsibilities are accomplished. Let him do it. He knows he has your support but sometimes you just have to do things on your own.
He will ask if he needs or wants you to come.
2007-08-23 03:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just handling it on his own. Have you called him or talked with him on how it is going? Maybe ask him if he would like you to go with him.
2007-08-23 03:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋