...example: I like it when people talk about themselves...I enjoy hearing other people tell me their "life" story. I "like" people who talk a lot, I like people who don't worry about my needs, I like people who have a "ribald" and "fearless" sense of humor, I like people who light-heartedly insult me, or question my motives...
So if I applied the "Golden Rule" to these things...I would run into serious trouble, because what I like people to "do unto" me, is "Not" what they would like done "unto" them...
Can you think of a similar situation in your own life where the "Golden Rule" does not apply...? (where I grew up, light-hearted insults and sarcasm was a sign of affection, and so I like it when people are light-heartedly insulting or sarcastic to me...)
2007-08-21 22:15:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
A fantasy of mine involves a whip, leather, boots and a man like you who is willing take my "ribald" and "fearless" insults. I'll be as gentle or as rough as you want it to be baby.
2007-08-22 02:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Saphire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me see if I get this right. Does this mean that you would be hurt if someone treated you well? I know of places, Dublin, Ireland for example, where this type of banter is the general practice, but I have always gotten along well without buying in to it. I can also see the dilemma where you assume that this type of behavior is acceptable universally, but then that's what assuming tends to attract.
The point I would like to make has to do with the Law of Attraction. I agree with you that intent surely has a powerful effect on communications. I also am sure that words carry a certain amount of their own weight. For example they enable people to learn to be sensitive to vibrationary content of paragraphs. This is why in the above mentionned banter as well as in communications such as when there is a lot of flirting going on, specialty words tend to be concocted, simply because of that weight which adheres to words or symbols. That weight is within this law of attraction referred to as vibration Sometimes completely new words and/or meanings are invented to suit. According to some research water can even be affected by labels placed on the containers. This brings to mind the Holy Water of my youth.
The Golden Rule is one which covers general ground and appears to me to be plain and simple. There is no clause included in it to cover intellectual vanity. One could assume that if there was it would naturally be lost on the majority and therefore be less than useless. Nevertheless interesting twists to questions are welcome and actually help to raise the bar of interest somewhat. I suppose it depends on the individual's mood. On the other hand, I can empathize with those who have acquired addictions through culture without feeling the need to feed those addictions myself. I could be wrong, right ? , having been there before! Cheers!
2007-08-22 11:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to interpret the GR a little more in depth. I would want people to know me well enough to light-heartedly insult me, for example.
The GR presumes that you know your neighbor very well which is actually an integral part of the real GR.
2007-08-22 07:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your case may be different ... are you for real?
In each one of us, there are a few uncommon traits and these would therefore naturally imply exception to the golden rule.
Moreover, the golden rule needs to be applied at a higher level.... what I mean is like this.... I like to be pleased, hence I should try to please others and if I take it to a lower level and because I get pleased when offered a strong coffee does not mean I should offer the same to all and sundry irrespective of their liking for it or otherwise.
2007-08-22 05:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody is a flavor. we experience cultures in variety and enjoy them. The golden rule doesn't mean we try to make all people the same. It reminds us to love each other when we deal with each other.
2007-08-22 12:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one particular one i can think of is visiting people in the hospital, when i am in the hospital i dont like visitors, sure maybe someone to pop in quick and bring me a few things, but if i am recuperating from a surgery i dont want to make small talk, when i feel bad i want to be left alone,
yet others would expect and like for me to go visit them
2007-08-22 07:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my house growing up it was a sign of affection , I think maybe you are over analyzing your preferences in personality traits
2007-08-22 09:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋