I need some advice!!?

Question

Ok so I'm the quiet type and I always show the happy quiet attitude when I'm among others. I only show my real self to my family and my closest friends (Which arn't that many). I always think to my self how some people can talk so socialy as if it comes to them so naturally.

The thing is though I'm hoping to do a job that involves talking to people a lot and I'm currently doing my studies accordingly.

I am so depressed when I think about whether I can get to my dream job by being the quiet person I am, when the job involves talking alot.

SO where should I start changing, how and what should I change?

PS No therapy or medication pls because I've tried them and no it didnt work so suggest some thing else

Thanks

Answer 1

okay this does work...and i have done it...but it will sound silly...you have to really get into it though and it will work for you...what you do is pick someone you know who acts the way you want to act...study how they react to people what they say...then start acting like that person in a situation where you would normally be quiet and shy...just pretend you are them...you have to do it fully and it's better to practice in situations where you will never meet the people again like a flea market or something....if you do this and continue...after a while you will be comfortable just being you in the situation...there are times i still do this...in situations where i know i won't be productive...i think of what someone who would be productive would do and act like them...it does work....

Answer 2

For a start it is possible. When I was at school I never spoke to anyone EVER.

Now I can speak to a room full of people with confidence AND ENJOY IT.

I can even have social conversations, although I am not that into it still.

The BEST thing to help you over come this and build your confidence is to join a public speaking club. (thats what I did and it helped me in so many ways I can name them)

A club is the best thing rather than a course as it is a weekly commitment to improving your skills with a bunch of people that you get to know and feel comfortable with.

I was a member for six years and enjoyed every aspect of it.
(I only left because I got very ill, but that is a whole different story)

The other thing I would suggest is something called EFT.
(Emotional Freedom Technique)

This is incredible what a difference it can make.

http://www.emofree.com

With both these things you are on the road to a whole new you.
Have fun

Answer 3

You obviously have to talk more, so try talking to children first, they are great conversationalists and would not embarrass you or pose a threat.
Secondly start talking to those people you meet on a day to day basis, that you believe may have less communication skills than you.
Next set yourself a target each day, as to how many people you will try to interact with avoiding closed questions (those that only require a yes / no answer)
Talk to people on check outs / on public transport / comment on the way others dress / their hairstyle / have some questions and responses ready so you can engage others at any time.
Finally -practise - practise -practise.
Even actors have to practise their lines.
If FEAR comes into the equation think of this phrase "Face Every Adversity Resolutely"
What are you waiting for? Go practise!!

Answer 4

I believe anyone can do and be what ever it is they want to do and be, but first, you need to work on your attitude, change the image you have of yourself being a quiet person, focus on the positive and when it comes to the job, always tell yourelf " I can do it" the same with all things, we can do alot more than we can imagine if only we change the way we think about ourselves.

Answer 5

I was always the quiet type to a few years ago. But then I wanted to be more social too so I tried to make people talk to me. I found an interesting hobby, skating (skateboard...I'm 14 so it makes sense) lol, and then two guys on skateboards followed me o_O... and introduced each other. It turned out they were very nice to talk to and I made friends with them. I then started to talk to people myself a lot. All you gotta do is make a good first impression so that people will like you! and it will make them want to talk to you and then you will be comfortable talking to them.

Answer 6

What passes for psychology today isn't up to speed. A mind shift is taking place and here's what it's all about at youtube. Check out the people who have the answers or email me. It's pretty easy, free and fun too. All those do's and don'ts wont do you much good as you may have found out.

Answer 7

Try volunteer work. It's a good way to meet and talk with people from all walks of life and a common goal.