Im going around with a guy since last 2 years!!! recently we got engaged to each other.. We are going to get married in Jan. But from last few days my realtion with him is getting worst.. we fight on small issues...........
is there any solution of all this.......... we both love each other n cant live without each other.
2007-08-21 21:39:33 · 13 answers · asked by nibha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys thanks for your answers!!!
But usually i fight with him..................
I get irritate on small things
2007-08-21 21:58:40 · update #1
hello dear .....this is not unusal ......its the fact ...i tell you how...when you were just friends you were tried to impress one another by showing their abilities & intelligent(even both try to show & make their personalty absolutely perfect in front of each other ) so both loved the attraction & fall in love with each other.Now they start sharing their stupidity , their negative points, even worse when they were not well dressed anyway because both are in love they not even bother....now their relation says WE should be the one ...a bond which is marriage.this is a knot which broke all the barriers of love/hate means when you love u love alot & when u hate u hate alot......but the fact is that ; that you both need each other & love each other.
this is the fact of life changing season & age showed their differences.....DON'T WORRY and GOD BLESS YOU
2007-08-22 01:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by bharti c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you guys love each other alot so it must be the wedding in January that must be bothering you guys. You guys are stressed, and nervous. Try to compromise and if it get's out of hand.. Then just ignore him and stay quiet. Tell him, that this wedding is making you and him fight almost on anything. Good luck.
Here's something that might cheer you up:
In the first year of marriage, the husband talks and the wife listens.
In the second year of marriage, the wife talks and the husband listens.
In the third year of marriage, the wife and the husband talks and the neighbours listen.
Haha, the moral is.. that it's perfectly normal to fight a little bit.
2007-08-22 04:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by PixieDust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give each other space and take it easy on the small issues. Agree to disagree and let ego not come in the way. Do some things/activities together that you both enjoy.
BTW this is only the start, it's gonna get worse after marriage, post the honeymoon period ! So both need to get used to doing a lot of adjustments and giving each other some space. Good luck !
2007-08-22 11:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Arun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are moving close to the reality show of getting married and living together where the naked truth of real life will surface. The anxiety to match the expectation of other person and people associated with him/her increases your blood pressure and hence lead to silly arguments and fight.
Pl realise that life is not a cakewalk. Pl face the realities and try to accommodate each other. You will overcome these hurdles. Best of luck
2007-08-22 05:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by villager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem is there...u dont know this but I think there is a feeling of assurity which came in u that u r going to marry him n he is going to be urs ....so unknowingly to u .....u r taking him as granted ...so this could be the reason behind u to get irritated....
If straightly u will see my ans u might be not able to understand try to feel it..I think its the right reason.
2007-08-22 12:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is stress!!!! A relationship is hard work...I mean, think how many times you fight with your family, but you make up because they are blood, right?
So now, there's this bloke--and of course you are going to fight, especially right around the final countdown.
2007-08-22 04:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by kelly1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fight is a result of love, since u are now entering into a serious relation that why this is happening, nothing wrong in it, its normal your fience loves u very much take it easy
dkpateria
2007-08-22 04:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by dhirpateria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both reset your relationship and start all over again, with changed minds. there is always a solution to the problem and divorce is not one of them imo.
2007-08-22 04:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nibha i will tell you one thingwhether you take it or leave it is that .some men in this world have complex problem, nagging character well diferent sorts just a example iwas referring. test him if he pass in that he is fit to be your partner if he fails
so so and don't take anybody's help in this kahi log kabhi nahi sudharte well tell me afterwards if you want to ask me .bless you in your mission
2007-08-22 05:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by venkatraman s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing wrong & don't worry
we fight with the ones we love the most
2007-08-22 14:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋