Because sometimes I get the urge to masturbate, so I do and then sometimes I feel dirty, and other times I feel great...Thanks for all the help in advance!
2007-08-21 21:35:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's not as much as if you are physically ready, but if you're emotionally ready. Think about your moral values and preferences, how do you think you would feel after? Shameful? Exhilarated? Happy?
There are many obstacles to consider, many of which lead us back to those like Candie foundation ads..don't have sex. There are just so many STDS, the risk of pregnancy, the feeling of shame and regret you're left with aftarward that it's encouraged to wait. Btw 95% of people masturbate..the other 5% is lying. I think everyone feels dirty after masturbation, it's just something that it brings I guess. But, many people don't feel shameful and I guess they're the ones who are sexually active. Personally I'd rather wait for someone who cares about me enough to respect that I want to wait, hope that helped !
2007-08-21 21:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Vertigo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel dirty about self exploration, every girl and guy does it unless they deny human urges (as in practiced religions and such). No matter what anyone says sexual urges are part of being human. Masturbation is a great way to get to know yourself and what you like sexually. I wouldn't start having sex unless you find the right partner that is entirely deserving of it!!! I'm sure you know this but I would never have sex without protection, no matter what the guy says!!! Pregnancy is scary enough but STDS WILL BE YOUR WORST NIGHT MARE! I would also go to your gynecologist and discuss your intentions, he/she may be able to give you good insight on what to do in regards to protection, and birth control. I'm not sure what your personality is like (whether you form attachments easily, or are seeking committed relationships) but when you are younger not much is a commitment. Be mentally prepared and unpressured. Sex is a huge step in adulthood. Your femininity should be respected as you are not an object to a man. Sex is a serious thing and if it isn't taken seriously then the health and mental risks will mess you up if you don't look out for yourself. Being responsible for your health and the health of others is when you are ready.
2007-08-22 04:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by tsw9080 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an experience that is not just a physical feel good measure, but an epiphany that's about the miracle of being joined with the love of your life for a few moments in time to become a whole new creature (one that the joining of you and he) creates. Thus, this concept is cheapened when you do it alone...it's like keeping all the food for yourself instead of sharing it with the one who needs you most. So consider, stop masturbating (however counterculture this may be to those who may happen to hear that) and elevate yourself to the next level where you deserve to be...having epiphanies with your soul mate, and more importantly, the one God selects for you as a life partner in marriage. The joy of intercourse with the love of your life is a reflection of the spiritual joy of intercourse with the love of God by praying, and reading His words to us through the Bible. Nothing replaces that. I hope you consider this.
2007-08-22 04:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you need to go for a ride, then it is time to jump on the horse. dont listen to these people about love-shmuv. thats so last century, and marriage these days is nothing more than some paper work. But, if you are Christian, go and do it, then pray, and you will be fine, at least, thats what they say. If you feel the urger to masturbate, and you can find someone else who does to, then lend eachother a hand (or a genital), and do it together. nothing wrong, nothing dirty, only natural. just do it. and be safe.
2007-08-22 07:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mike Tyson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your confortable with the idea. odd are your not the kind to go rushing out to get the deed done but the idea behind of making the first time special is usually lost.
being confortable and communal with people enough to have sex sometimes happens quite early and a little fast. provided your protected and in a safe and somewhat fun or at the vary least loving enviornment.
I beleave that when people feel dirty or not right with themselves its too soon to be branchin out into a physical relationship.. Working out your feelings inside you is as simple as desciding wiether you want sexuality to be pleasurable and life enriching... Or something to cover up hateand feel bad about.
either way your making a descision.. for yourself for whom you dont need to ask others opinions.. its your choice if you want to be healthy with this reserved.. or communal about loving yourself or others physically.
take the time to work out how you feel about sex yourself.. ie with yourself.. and youll know reasonably well when its time for you to find someone to share.
2007-08-22 04:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by HuggieSunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh. When you are not scared and no longer need to question if it is right....
It sounds like a cliche, but the longer you wait the better it will be. And if you love someone and had sex with him/her...would you be ok with it if they just walked away afterwards and never spoke to you again? Above all, make sure you are in a kind relationship...
2007-08-22 04:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by kelly1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you could DIE for this person, as you may well have to in this age age of hiv and stds. the loss of virginity is a special thing to be remembered often. there will be plenty of times for the wild urges later.
2007-08-22 04:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by shawna s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is normal and occours in a lot of people, its a way of exploring your body and getting to know yourself. but dont rush into sex, wait until you find someone you love and want to spend the rest of our lifes with, and never let anyone push you into it. and at the moment there is nothing wrong with doing what you do.
2007-08-22 04:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel dirty for masturbating. It is perfectly normal behavior. You are ready for sexual intercourse when you have a loving relationship with one person.
2007-08-22 04:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you know that you love that person enough to give it up to him. However, I for one would say 'till marriage because that's what I'm doing.
2007-08-22 04:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Cardiophobia <3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋