can a female colleague tell a male about colleague about his zip of pant open until they are close friends?

Question

my boyfriend told me that zip of his pant was open & his female colleague (monica) told him to close the zip.i didnt like that a girl can tell a male colleague until they are close friends . but he blamed my thinking. he told monica is right & my thinking is wrong. I tried him to stop to talk to that girl but he is behaving rudely.
I beleived that I was not asking any impossible thing because if we were going to marry we have to leave our family at least for sometime due to our family oppose so why he is unable to leave talking to a girl.he said he will not stop . I realised that i am not important to satyam . my feelings , love & care towards him is useless.

Next day he told that monica asked some help in studies & he has helped her in the office & taught her .other day he told me that monica liked my whistle to a song . I told him that i am hurted by his talks & requested him to stop talking to monica.he blamed me& told he will not stop.even for the sake of my happiness

Answer 1

i do not wish to sound mean but you need to grow up and act your age.no matter if it was a friend, colleague, or someone on the streets, it is human nature to let some one know that their zipper is undone, your boyfriend is right, you are wrong,. sound like you are a control freak, ease up on that. if not, you will lose your boyfriend. Think before you speck......

Answer 2

Have you lost your mind? Sorry for the blunt response, but think about it: You'd rather that your boyfriend walk around looking like a fool than have someone tell him to zip his pants? If it's because she was looking at his crotch, consider this: If she had wanted a show, she wouldn't have said anything to him!

Ask yourself: Assuming you stay together, are you going to freak over every female he meets? If that occurs, I can promise you that he won't ever confide completely in you because he'll always fear that you'll pick a fight. If anything, the way you're behaving will undoubtedly push him away. My wife did just that for a short period of time and it got to the point that I wouldn't tell her anything that happened at work.

Unless he's a complete putz, he's going to have female friends. Deal with it. Not every woman is out to steal him away from you.

Do yourself a favor, and try to get to know Monica better. You may find she can be a friend to you, as well.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with monica telling ur bf to close the zip. U overreacted to that a bit. But ur bf's attitude towards monica and vice versa are truely a bit worrisome.

Hey, what about getting to know more about that girl and find out what she's in between u n ur bf for? Try to stay cool with both of them. Ask ur bf nicely to go wit him when he's meeting monica in an appropriate time, and get close to monica in a friendly way. Find out what her purpose is.

Remember to stay cool and be nice to ur bf, ok? B nice lady! Don scare him away.

Answer 4

you are being unreasonable. I would much rather someone told my husband or fiance that his zip was undone rather than him have the embarassment of walking around with them open all day.
Plus, he is at work! He has to talk to other employees whether they are male or female.
you ask about your happiness? what about his? If your relationship is going to last you need trust - and sadly you seem to have none for him.
Grow up, stop acting like a spoilt child and trust your man.

Answer 5

I think you have a problem. You must have come from a very conservative family or you are one person who is very possessive. I guess this could be your first love or the first few.

Be open. That doesn't mean you must allow him to flirt. But if he is not yours, he will never be yours. You are causing your own emotional unstability. Time will heal all this and you will see life in a different perspective. Good luck.

Answer 6

I think your boyfriend is partially right as being in an office atmosphere these are common things and occur on regular basis. You should not have taken that matter seriously. Now since you guys went too far in this so here your boyfriend should have been more sensible and tried to tell you things calmly instead.......

Answer 7

You are way too insecure when you would rather your boyfriend's zipper stay down, than to have someone tell him about it. Get a grip!! You can't smother a guy like that. You will end up losing him because of your jealousy. You need to tone it down a lot!!!!!

Answer 8

In America, it is considered a courtesy to let someone know that their pants zipper is open. One hopes to prevent further exposure and embarrassment.

But, beyond that, it seems that Monic is flirting with him and that he is enjoying it. Think twice before marryng this man. I'm not sure your happiness is of great concern to him.

Answer 9

well is ok to tell someone that. heck you'd be running around with all these people laughing and that is not good. heck i wouldn't worry cause even someoneyou cond't know could come up and say hey gates open? well same difference. ok

Answer 10

i think there's nothing wrong in monica telling your bf his fly is open. however, your bf's reaction is a bit worrisome. it seems he is smitten by monica. it's going to be a bit of a problem later on.