My ex-husband will not allow his mom visitation with her grandson?
My ex-husband informed that his parents threatened to take my our away so he'd never see him. He claims that he is ending the cycle of violience and drinking; cutting off ties with his mom, dad, and sister. I sincerly wanted to believe him...
This is the same man that I had a protective order filed to protect me and my kids. That just a few months ago nearly physically attacked in front of my son.
His mom calls me (we always seemed to get along, but he never wanted his family comminucating during/after the divorce) and askes if she could please see her grandsons. I honestly know she loves them and I don't want to deny her but the repercutions will not be good when finds out that we talked / if I let her have the boys for a visit. The miss her...
Apperently there was a big faling out several months ago and he refuses to answer/ return her calls and I was only hope to see her grandson...Losing sleep over this...
2007-08-21 21:20:09 · 7 answers · asked by Sydney J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you and his mother get along good I would allow her to see her grandchild. Your ex dosnt have to know anything about it. Make arrangements for you all to meet somewhere, like the mall or the park, that way if the kids accidently say "I saw grandma today" you can tell him that you both were at the same place at the same time. Your ex sounds like a jerk and what he dosnt know wont hurt him. The grandparents can also go to court, or speak to a lawyer about visitation. There is something called "Grandparents Rights". They have every right to see their grand kids and he has no right to take that away. Your ex is also a fool if he dosnt see what hes doing to his family. Just because they had a falling out dosnt mean the kids have to suffer, and he better be glad that he still has his parents. My parents both passed away 3 years before my oldest son was born and I would do anything if they could see my kids, even if we were not getting along. No one has the right to take away except for a judge who feels that the children may be in danger being in the presence of any parent or grandparent, and from what I'm reading in the post, its not the grandparents that you need to worry about, its your ex. If you've already had a order of protection against him once more then likely you will have more again. Just be careful, he sounds like he could hurt you or those kids at anytime. Always be careful for you and your children .
2007-08-21 22:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect his wishes to a compromise and explain to them that it is his wish that they not be part of the children's life while drinking etc. However I feel that supervised visits would be ok - like if she came to your house or something.
It is better you allow them to visit your home as then you can control the environment.
He is your ex - he lost his right to have the control over the situation when he lost his temper and beat you and him completely denying his children the right to know their grandparents is selfish and cruel.... assuming they have never performed any violence to the children or drank.
My mom was a horrible mom - she was an abusive drunk when I was growing up. Since then she has changed, she gave her life to god, stopped drinking, and I trust her completely now.
People change and just because they weren't the best parents doesn't mean that they will do the same. Before you give them complete trust though, make them earn it.
2007-08-21 21:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you talk with your attorney and child protective services. Provide them both with the information and allow them to intervene. Abuse in any form is unacceptable, so very important that your documentation be accurate and precise. You have a better case in front of a judge if everything is what is in the best interest of the child. But do nothing until you speak with someone that can provide you with concrete evidence that will protect you and your child.
2016-04-01 10:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why she can't see her grandsons and I see no reason why your ex needs to know about the visits.
Every child is entitled to see their grandparents, they were not the cause of the parents separation.
2007-08-21 21:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can go to court and file for visitation rights.
2007-08-21 21:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you had a protective order against him, WHY IS HE TAKING THEM BY HIMSELF?
second, yes, i would let her see them. sounds like she would be better for them than dad
2007-08-21 23:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have to talk to a lawyer. will she be allowed to see her grandson?
2007-08-21 21:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋